Ladies, we were pampered and honored last month on Mother’s Day, and boy was that fun, but now it’s time to think of the men in our lives. Many of us are wondering how we’ll celebrate Father’s Day with them.
When I was the Managing Editor of a group of parenting magazines, I decided to have a little fun and ask our male staffers what they really wanted most for Father’s Day and how they’d like to celebrate it, so we could give our readers a heartfelt heads-up.
The answers were somewhat surprising, not to mention amusing. Based on that and other dad’s responses, I’ve compiled a list of 5 things that dads really want this Father’s Day:
Time With You: Let’s face it. When kids enter the picture, for many of us, romance has left the building… unless you make an effort to rekindle it. The demands and needs of our children come first, especially for moms. Dads want to feel that they are still important, and of course they are, so let’s show it by a night out alone…and no talking about the kids!
Family Gathering: Some of the best memories that many of the dads polled had were of family gatherings in their honor. Older fathers recalled special Father’s Day barbecues where the family gathered just for him and enjoyed a leisurely day in the sun. Cold beer, meat on the grill, and a dip in the pool. Not much beats that.
Anything That Is Unique To Them: Is your hubby into sports, golf, or fishing? Maybe he’d like none of these. Perhaps he enjoys cooking instead. Whatever he specifically enjoys is what you should get him, no matter how eccentric (or boring) it might seem to you. My husband would be like a kid in a candy store if he received a package of old Italian Westerns or a new table saw, both of which I can barely imagine being enthused at all to get myself. I’m thinking Westerns I might have to watch with him but a table saw might just get the kids’ bedroom finally finished. Hmmm….. decisions, decisions.
To Be Left Alone: Don’t take this the wrong way, but most dads are bombarded when they get home from work. Like moms, they have to do a list of various things from yard work and pool set-up to picking up the kids and reading bedtime stories. So naturally if you ask a dad what he actually wants to do on his day, he might say have a few cold beers and do nothing. Being left alone can be a good thing. I would love nothing more than to be left alone on many days myself.
Recognition: Just like every mom wants to feel valued and special, every dad needs to feel appreciated. Parenting can be an unsung chore at times, so when we recognize his hard work day in and day out (in the home and at work), it goes a long way.
How will you spend Father’s Day? What does your hubby want most? Is he more the family gathering type or the “I want to be left alone kind of guy”?
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