My husband and I have had our share of challenges. When we stared them in the face it was frustrating, disheartening even. At the time it was always difficult to see the other side, but once we made it through to that other side I felt like I was stronger and that our marriage was stronger. I learned somewhere along the way that it is when your relationship is faced with challenges that you learn just how strong it really is. It is when you are faced with adversity that your character shows your ability to withstand adversity, and your love and commitment either falters or it becomes stronger. It is in the midst of life’s storms when your relationship is truly put to the test.
This week many relationships have weathered a storm, a big one. Hurricane Sandy hit the East Coast leaving not one life untouched that was in its path.
I cannot see the good in what has happened to so many. I cannot see the good in lives lost, homes destroyed, and children heartbroken because all they wanted was to wear their costumes on Halloween. I cannot see the good in people taking advantage of some of our society’s most defenseless or being forced to sit in the dark praying that the lights will come back on. I cannot see the good in looking around and all you can see is what used to be and no longer is. What I can see is why being able to find some good in such a horrible situation is absolutely necessary. The good is seen in the people that are still standing, the good is seen in the professionals that have put their lives on the line to say the lives of others. The good is seen in the random acts of kindness as people come together to support their neighbors, the good is seen in the mothers and fathers who are determined not to let the hurricane ruin the day their children anxiously awaited with such anticipation.
The good is seen in the fact that you and your partner have weathered this storm, and while you will deal with the aftermath for days, weeks, months or even years, you will get through it. It is during these times, times of great pain and loss, when the small things fall to the wayside. The things that annoy you about your spouse suddenly don’t matter all that much. What matters instead is the fact that they are beside you; living, breathing, and there to help your family reconstruct what has been broken. What matters is that they will be there with you to hold your children and comfort them as they try so hard to understand what has happened and at night when the children have gone to bed, they will be there to hold you as the tears fall.
So while what has just happened in your life has the ability to break you, don’t let it. Instead allow it to bring you and your spouse even closer than you already were. I imagine some days will be hard, as with marriage that is always the case, but if you have weathered storms in life before, look to those memories as testaments of your ability to overcome. Let this storm be no different. Don’t let your relationship become another casualty. If there is any good to be seen, it is in the fact that the greatest things you have built together – your marriage and your children – are not lost.
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