Having Someone to Sleep with May Be Keeping You Up

So you’ve got a partner to sleep with every night – lucky you! But anybody who’s been shacking up for a while knows that sleeping with your beloved every night can be as annoying as it is blissful. Here are some of the things your partner might be doing to keep you up at night, along with some solutions:

1.) Snoring. 

This is a big one, since so many people snore. Both men and women are guilty of it, and often people will swear they don’t snore when in fact they do. YourTango cites a study that says 41% of snorers experience nightly problems with their partners. If you’re sleeping with a heavy snorer, try putting light music on or using a white noise machine to drown out the sound of his or her zzz’s.

2.) Getting turned on.

Some couples have a hard time brushing up against each other without wanting to do it, which makes cuddling complicated when it’s time to go to sleep. If you can’t keep your hands off each other once your bodies touch, sleep facing away from each other, with a body pillow in-between if you must, you horndogs.

3.) Tossing and turning.

If you wake up every time your partner tosses or turns, you might want to consider sleeping in separate beds. Or – if you can afford it – invest in one of those memory foam mattresses that you can jump on without spilling a glass of wine. That ought to help.

4.) Different schedules.

If you have different work schedules (one of you comes home late, one of you has to wake up early), ask your partner to change in the bathroom instead of the bedroom so you don’t wake each other up, YourTango suggests.

5.) Stealing the covers.

If your partner steals the covers, you might wake up cold in the middle of the night and feel frustrated that you can’t get your portion of the blanket back. YourTango recommends each of you having your own blanket in bed, that way no one wakes up mad.

6.) Sleep talking.

I dated a guy who liked to talk in his sleep. It was always kind of incoherent, and enough to wake me up (but not him). If your partner talks in his or her sleep, encourage him or her to avoid stress and get plenty of sleep, WebMD suggests. They say, “It is a good idea to see a sleep specialist if your sleep talking occurs suddenly as an adult or if it involves intense fear, screaming, or violent actions. You might also consider seeing a doctor if unconscious chatter is interfering with your sleep — or that of your roommates.”

7.) Sleepwalking.

Sleepwalking can be funny (like in this video where a young man films his mom sleepwalking and then shows her what she looked like), but it can also be dangerous. If your partner (or your child) is sleepwalking, WebMD recommends a “power-down hour before hitting the pillow” during which he or she can unwind from the day with a warm bath or light reading – no electronics! (For more on how sleepwalking can affect relationships and a person’s entire life, watch Sleepwalk with Me starring Mike Birbiglia.)


YourTango notes that “hot yoga, hot sex and a hot shower (the yoga doesn’t have to be hot, but it sounds better that way, doesn’t it?)” can help troubled sleepers get better rest. “Yoga is by far the most successful sleep inducer, as it can increase your slumber time by up to 64 minutes. Sex and hot showers both only increase sleep time by six minutes,” YourTango adds.

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