My first thought after typing that title was, “God, so many people are going to read this and think, ‘Isn’t it obvious? If you don’t know the difference between a boyfriend and a booty call, you’re pretty stupid.’” But then I realized, if you’re reading this, chances are you’re aware of just how tricky seeing your way through relationship fog can be. If you’re spending time with someone and you don’t feel secure in the relationship, it’s not a secure relationship. It really is that simple. But not always that easy to understand.
The reason why wrapping your mind around that simple truth is so difficult for some of us is because we want to be in relationships so badly, and narcissistic, selfish people are willing to obfuscate the truth and manipulate your vulnerability to get what they want from you. Because I’m a woman, I’m going to write this from the perspective of a woman addressing other women, but guys, I’m sure some of you will be able to relate. (Gay people are not immune to this kind of relationship confusion, either, so no matter who you are and who you like to get it on with, just know these basic principles apply to you.) I learned all of these lessons the hard way, through experience. Some of them are painful to admit because I was so blind to such obvious bad behavior, but it’s easy to be duped when you want to fall in love!
Here are 10 Signs He’s Just a Booty Call and Not Your Boyfriend:
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