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I Put "10 Ways to Perk Up Your Relationship" to the Test

By Lori Garcia |

I barely have time to shave my legs, let alone think of fun and creative ways to freshen up my marriage.

Try as I might to squeeze in a sweet text or a loving Post-It to my husband, sometimes I can’t even manage to do that much. Thirteen years of marriage and a couple of kids have made it pretty damn easy sit back and trust that my husband knows how much I love him. But was that enough? Probably not.

Since I’m not a love doctor, I took to the internet for advice on how to give my slightly saggy marriage a little nip and tuck. So when I came across Psychology Today‘s 10 Ways to Perk Up Your Relationship, I was up for the challenge. Read on to discover the 10 ways I attempted to perk up my marriage, along with my husband’s reaction to the perking – all after the jump!

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Wife Tests Psychology Today's

Be grateful

According to psychologist Sarah Algoe, gratitude has the ability to boost positive emotion into relationships. Gratitude was certainly worth a try. After a particularly trying day, my husband came home late from work. Under normal circumstances I'd be in a wicked bad mood for my stint as a single mother, only this time I simply thanked him for working so hard to provide for our family.

His reaction: "Wow Babe, thanks. That means a lot. I'll do anything to make sure you guys are taken care of."

My reaction: Wow, I picked a good egg. Not to mention, that whole "single mother" resentment that had been building? Gone.

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The week I spent focused on my husband left me with the overwhelming desire to keep going. Between you and me, that was the last thing I expected to happen. As an unexpected bonus my husband mysteriously began tackling his older than dirt Honey-Do list. Coincidence? I think not.

How do you perk up your relationship?

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Lori Garcia

Lori Garcia is a writer and mother of two living and loving in Southern California. When she's not fussing with her bangs, you can find her shaking her groove thing on her personal blog, Mommyfriend where she almost never combines true tales of motherhood and mayhem with her degree in child development. Read bio and latest posts → Read Lori's latest posts →

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6 thoughts on “I Put "10 Ways to Perk Up Your Relationship" to the Test

  1. Linda, T.O.O. says:

    Wow. Another bad slideshow full of stock photos of things we see every day.

  2. Manjari says:

    Seriously!! I would have read this list if I didn’t have to take the time to click through the ridiculous stock photos. If the photos aren’t crucial to the content, you DO NOT need a slideshow.

  3. Alison says:

    OK, I think you might have inspired me to try some of these stock tips on how to improve a relationship. I guess it is stock advice for a reason, after all. (And I’ll really try hard not to resent the fact that it would never in a hundred million years occur to my husband to read such an article, much less act on it.)

  4. Valerie says:

    Why are people so harsh on these things? Its their way of doing things. If you don’t like it, either deal with it, and don’t complain, maybe say something nice or do constructive criticism, not mean ones. Or don’t bother. You know they always have these slide shows. Whether necessary or not. I think its still neat. Ok so a few seconds extra to wait for a page to load… Big deal!!!! I’m sure you wait longer for a post on fb to load than this!! You are not better than anyone else…. Get over your snobby self …THANKS!!!!

  5. Yvette says:

    those ladies totally bombed your amazing article. ANYWAY.. I loved this because 1. Your husband’s reactions almost exactly reflect (does this lead to sex, etc.. I really LOL’d)
    2. We try to do this all the time. When a while goes by and I feel like I haven’t “said” I love you enough or something, I leave a note in his lunch box or on his leftovers he’s going to take the next day. I have also left notes in the car & little “I love you gifts”. I like to keep him thinking about it all day until he sees me again :)
    3. We should all pratice more positive things in our relationships because it results in more positive feelings and men respond more to those positive things.
    4. Touch is something I have to remind myself of daily. Coming from a family where no love was shown it’s hard for me to physically show it. But it’s gotten easier with him.
    5. We were required to take a premarital course before we got married (feb 29th of this year) and at first we thought it sucked but it was really awesome in the end. It taught us a lot about ourselves and each other and we said we’d do it every 6 months to see if things have changed. Yes we are newly weds but we have known each other since high school (over 10yrs ago)
    6. I am determined to make my marriage last and so I will continue to try these things!!
    Thanks for a great article.. and forget the annoying ladies that complain about the slide shows.. they need a life!

  6. Gisele says:

    I actually read the original article in PT and yours was much more entertaining. Thanks!!

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