Regarding his son Martson Hefner’s recent arrest for beating his girlfriend, Hugh Hefner recently told People magazine, “If they care about each other, they’ll patch it up.” Hugh dismissed the severity of the physical beating of 2011 Playmate of the Year, Claire Sinclair at the hands of his child. To him, it was a more of a relationship issue rather than a crime. And people are saying Hugh’s response was insincere, and his apology, if you can call it that, was not good enough.
Frankly, I’m not surprised in the least that his son beat his girlfriend- hadn’t he learned his whole life to devalue women as a whole?
In his defense, Hugh apparently tweeted “I’m really disappointed in my son Marston’s behavior & have expressed my support to Claire.” Yet the tweet mysteriously disappeared soon after it was written. Damage control for sure.
When women are seen as things or objects rather than people with equal rights, they are just a hop, skip and a jump away from being abused, aren’t they? I mean don’t abusive men see their women as their property, something worthy of being put down, overlooked and devalued.
I’m not defending Marston in any way. He should get exactly what he deserves for beating up his girlfriend. He is said to have punched and kicked her repeatedly. I just don’t understand why people might be surprised that he did it because his father has made a bundle and an entire career out of devaluing women.
There is a video from 2010 called “Killing Us Softly” put out by the Media Education Foundation (that every girl should watch), which shows the connection and the slippery slope between treating women as objects and the pathway to abuse:
It creates a climate in which there is widespread violence against women. Turning a human being into a thing is almost always the first step toward justifying violence against that person. We see this with racism. We see it with homophobia. We see it with terrorism. It’s almost always the same process. The person is dehumanized and violence becomes inevitable.
I know there are many that see no harm in what Hugh Hefner does, and others who say the women, the playmates, are willing participants, but the connection between the objectification of women and girls and violence against them is too overwhelming to ignore. It also doesn’t help that Sinclair has dropped the charges (as so many battered women do) and Rihanna is friends again with Chris Brown, and possibly may even do a new duet with him. You have to wonder how much they accept the beatings themselves and/or feel they deserved them to be able to do that?
How long can we all be okay with women getting beaten and the men responsible for it going unpunished? How long can we wipe these incidents under the rug and pretend they never happened simply because the person is famous? We had the stories of Chris Brown’s Grammy win followed by girls tweeting about they would willingly take a beating from Brown and Marston Hefner’s arrest in just the span of one week.
Imagine how many we never hear about but happen everyday in part because violence against women has become, in certain circles, acceptable.
Our girls deserve more. We deserve more.
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