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Is Mom Guilt Universal? (VIDEO)

By daniellesmith |

Being a mother is easily the most challenging thing I have ever done in my life (and the most extraordinary). From the moment my first child, my daughter, was born, I have wondered if I am “doing it right.”

And I know I’m not alone. One conversation after another with other moms will include questions, musings…we always seem to be wondering about one thing or another. Are they getting enough fruits and vegetables?  Enough sleep? Did we say the right thing? Do we work too much?  Travel too much? Do the kids get enough time outside?  Are they over-scheduled?

The list goes on and on.

For me, it isn’t overwhelming, but it is present.  There are many things that don’t hit my guilt radar: my kid’s diet, their busy schedules, or family time together. I do however, always feel guilty when I lose my patience or if I have a series of work trips in a row. I recognize the most important thing I can do for my children is love them, but I would also enjoy being able to embrace the feeling that I’m doing the best I can all the time.

I have a friend who does it beautifully. Admittedly, I’m a bit jealous.

What about you? As a mother, do you ever feel guilty and if so, about what?

Read more from Danielle on Strollerderby and her personal sites ExtraordinaryMommy and DanielleSmithMedia.

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A decorated public speaker and a masterful listener, Danielle Smith can engage and entertain both online and live audiences alike. She is the founder of Extraordinary Mommy, the author of Mom, Incorporated: A Guide to Business + Baby , and a lover of all things video. Read bio and latest posts → Read daniellesmith's latest posts →

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0 thoughts on “Is Mom Guilt Universal? (VIDEO)

  1. Claudia says:

    I actually don’t get it really, aside from obvious times like when I shout at my daughter for no good reason because I’m in a bad mood!

    In general I’m a firm believer that I’m doing ‘well enough’ and that guilt won’t help me. A lot of this guilt comes from external forces and with their ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ and a media that insist on telling us that everything is ‘damaging’ our children. I accept that some of the things I do will probably be slightly disadvantageous to my kids, but the good will far outweigh that. I’m a clued-up person with lots of support – there’s no reason my kids shouldn’t thrive.

    Overall, I sum up my view of parenting’s effect on children as ‘Chill out, you’re only their parent!’

  2. daniellesmith says:

    Claudia – that is generally what I mean – those are the times when I feel guilty as well – and, as I mentioned with work and traveling. Like you, I aim to focus on the ‘good enough’ and don’t fall into the ‘should haves’ all the time, but definitely see how it is easy for mothers to compare themselves to each other…. I do like the ‘chill out’ :)

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