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Is Sleep the New Sex?

By Dana Rousmaniere |

Are you getting any?

Are you getting any? Sleep, that is.

Not me. Last night, I worked late, then stayed up to pack lunches, unload the dishwasher, throw in a load of laundry, and fill out some school paperwork. I looked at the stack of bills waiting to be paid, but decided to pack it in for the night, because I was already looking at sub-six hours of shuteye. Then, in the middle of the night, my son needed me. Then, my daughter had a nightmare. And I played musical beds.

Newsflash: Moms aren’t getting enough sleep. And 67% of moms say that they would rather sleep than have sex.

According to a new survey conducted by the website Hybrid Mom:

“Moms don’t sleep. Not during pregnancy. Not after the kids are born. Not after they’re in school. And especially not after they start driving. In fact, a totally unscientific poll of mothers recently revealed that no mom sleeps until her kids are grown and out of the house. Part of the reason is that we’re good parents. We try to give our kids a clean home, clean clothes, and a modicum of attention. But let’s face it, sleep is the new sex, we all want more, and none of us are getting enough.”

According to Hybrid Mom: “24 percent of married women have given up sex, whether it’s because we’re so exhausted we prefer sleep or because we’re so irritated at our partner is anybody’s guess.”

For the record, this does not apply to my own partner, but I know plenty of women who say they do feel this way. So, what is it, moms? Too exhausted? Are you “touched out?” Irritated with your partner? Just plain over it? All of the above?

What’s the real reason why so many moms are saying no to sex and yes to sleep?

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0 thoughts on “Is Sleep the New Sex?

  1. Paula/adhocmom says:

    If I could get a gift card for anything in the world, it would, absolutely 100% be for sleep. . .

  2. Dana Rousmaniere says:

    Ha! Paul/adhocmom — sign me up, too! What a great idea I think you might be on to something…

  3. Deb says:

    As a mom I miss the days when you could go to sleep when you wanted and wake up, in the morning rather than 5 times during the night. But I wouldn’t give up sex for sleep. Have you seen my husband??? He’s gorgeous!

  4. Marj says:

    This is new? Or is it just new for you (and any other new mom)?

  5. Dana Rousmaniere says:

    New survey… new for new moms… unfortunately, maybe not so very new for veteran moms.

  6. Gail says:

    Men can sleep through anything- until you are out of town and they are “on-call”
    then they say it was so hard- I hardly slept at all- Welcome to my world!
    I think the worst part is your body gets conditioned to waking up in the middle of the night with all the little ones and once they all start sleeping through the night-
    I am still wide awake at 2:30 am just out of habit

  7. Tasha says:

    Gail, that’s what I was afraid of! Eek.

  8. Deb says:

    To add to my comment…. I’d rather sleep than clean. I want to know how other moms are able to have a clean house, get kids fed/ bathed, homework done, read to them before bed, etc… and then have the energy to clean the house all over again???????

  9. Dana says:

    Gail, I’m in the same boat some nights–awake out of habit. Argh. Deb–sleep is definitely better than cleaning.

  10. Linda, the original one says:

    I’d rather have sex, but my youngest child is 6.

  11. Dana says:

    Linda — you give us all hope that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

  12. Sarah says:

    I’d rather have sex, but then again my 3 year old sleeps more or less soundly and I have a messy house. You can’t have it all. (My husband is gorgeous, too!)

  13. Aaron says:

    My wife and I have always split midnight parent duty, but she has certainly carried the lion’s share with the infants since I couldn’t nurse them. Now that our youngest is nearly four, I try to even the score a little by letting my wife sleep and dealing with the potty trips and nightmares. I readily admit that my ears are not as attuned to the children’s cries as hers, but take heart ladies: he can be trained to be a decent caregiver, if he wants to be. Maybe he needs to know that you’ll be more receptive to his advances, if he helps you get more sleep (and maybe a little alone awake time too).

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