Kidnapped Boy's Brazilian Stepfather Speaks Outtoddler-times
An American dad’s fight to bring back his kidnapped son from Brazil, five years after his mom took off with the boy for parts unknown, just got crazier. The boy’s Brazilian stepfather is speaking out – and claiming its all the biological dad’s fault.
David Goldman’s wife Bruna left the U.S. in 2004 with their son, Sean, ostensibly on a visit to her family in her native Brazil. Only she never came back . . . and neither did Sean. Bruna asked for and got a divorce from the Brazilian courts, and she refused to let Sean go back to New Jersey to see his biological father.
Instead she remarried, got pregnant and died shortly after giving birth. Her second husband Joao Paulo Lins e Silva now has a letter, published in USA Today, claiming Sean knows only him and his sister (the baby Bruna gave birth to shortly before her death) as his family.
After Bruna’s death, when David decided to fight for his son, Sean’s stepfather says “our lives became hell.”
“Sean is Brazilian! Even though he wasn’t born in our beloved land, he loves his Brazil like few do. (Sean) wants to have a normal life, to stay with (me) and his sister, his only connection to his deceased mother. (Sean has an) interest in maintaining contact with his biological father, but he wants to do it in a healthy and balanced way.”
So, let me get this straight: a nine-year-old wants to get to know his father in a “healthy” and “balanced” way. Wouldn’t it be healthiest, then, to stop stalling things and let him see his dad? Because Sean’s first in-the-flesh meeting with his biological father happened THIS YEAR, five years after his mother took off with him. David was told he could have custody this spring . . . only to have that decision suspended by a Brazilian court earlier this month.
The balance has been off-kilter for five years, and yet the stepfather talks of Sean, who he says ‘runs the risk of losing everything that really makes him feel safe.”
Wasn’t that a concern five years ago, when his wife ran off from her husband in the states and took her child from his homeland, his father, his grandparents?
I don’t doubt that this man who has raised Sean for the past five years – yes, raised him – is heavily invested in the boy and should have some rights of his own. I support the rights of stepparents wholeheartedly, especially steps who have stepped up to the plate where biological parents have not. But is it right for a man who has stood in the way of allowing a biological parent to respond to his duties as a parent (heck, his desires as a parent) to throw the blame back?
Should his views be taken into consideration? Read his entire letter here, then come back and let us know what you think.