'Minimalist Mom' Lauded By Everyone (Except Me) for Spending No Money on Her Kids for a YearMeredith Carroll
Hattie Garlick, a mom and blogger in Great Britain, is making news at the moment. Mind you, the spotlight isn’t on her for being a mom, blogger, or Brit, but because for the entire calendar year of 2013, she didn’t spend a dime on her kids.
Garlick lost her job around Christmas 2012, and during the holiday-buying frenzy, she “pledged to strike out against consumerism,” according to NBC News. She and her husband made exceptions for babysitting and medical costs, but other than that, not a penny went towards a toy, cute pair of overalls, onesie, ice cream cone, box of mac and cheese, birthday party or gift of any kind for any occasion or event.
All of this maybe wasn’t such a thing when it was just Garlick, her husband, and their toddler-age son. But then Garlick got pregnant during her spend-free year and had a second baby. So the no-spending thing extended to the infant. But to her credit, she stood firm — she remained a “minimalist mom” — even though her second child was a girl and all the baby clothes in her house were for boys.
“When we found out [the baby] was a girl, I think my resolve was stiffened in a way,” Garlick said. “The kiddie consumerism aimed at young girls is so much more toxic at times. It encourages girls that they have to be interested in pink and princess. I want to protect her from that as long as possible.”
Sure, along the way she made an exception or two, like buying some diapers and wipes, but she mostly got everything she needed from friends and neighbors and through websites devoted to spreading the love (and free stuff). Garlick’s family deemed the entire experiment such a success to the extent that they have continued it thus far into 2014. And, as was mentioned above, she’s making news for it.
I just don’t really understand why this is news. Yes, I know it costs deep into the six-figures to raise a child from birth to college. But there are plenty of families who don’t believe in birthday and Christmas gifts. There are lots of boys walking around in pink shirts and girls in blue shorts. Plenty of kids grow up wearing hand-me-downs exclusively. Lots of people live with community in mind and in massively communal ways. And while Garlick lost her job and had less money to spend, there are too many families to count who have no choice but to spend next to nothing on things like new clothes, toys, and gifts.
While I think Garlick is admirable in that she found a creative way to not spend money, I hardly think she’s unique. I’m not among the parents who (admirably) insist their children eat what they eat instead of cooking separate kid-friendly meals. I spoil my kids in my own way, but if you were to ask my 5-year-old, she gets far less than most of her friends (she thinks her life is pretty much over and ruined at this point because she insists that literally every girl on the planet has an Elsa dress from the movie Frozen except for her).
Garlick has said the whole thing started because she was short on money, but it ended up being more about building a network of support. Again — why does anyone really think this is new or unique? In fact, it seems to me that simplifying lifestyles has been all the rage since the advent of the iPhone and Starbucks. Think of all of the things we think we can’t live without that we, of course can easily live without, even if most of us choose not to. Our kids’ grandparents just looooove to remind of us of how we managed long car trips without iPads and how we survived our walks to and from school each and every day without cell phones. Blah, blah, blah.
While Garlick certainly sounds admirable, she hardly sounds like a trendsetter or ground-breaker — to me, anyway. I like new things. I like giving my kids new things. That doesn’t mean they are entitled brats. It just means I earn a little extra money sometimes and choose to spend it on certain things that they might not need, but simply want. Sometimes stuff just makes me and them happy, and it makes me happy to give it to others. While that definitely doesn’t make me a “minimalist mom,” I don’t think it makes me a bad one, either. Yet, somehow I don’t think anyone (except me) is going to write about me, anyway.
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