I’ve been fortunate in that I haven’t had to make any extremely difficult parenting decision as of yet. The hardest, to date, might have been picking a nursery school for my older son.
Like I said, I’ve been lucky … which is why I stand in awe of Zimra Vigoda.
In a fascinating piece for Kveller.com, Vigoda writes of her decision to allow her 11-year-old son to have his leg amputated.
Let that sink in for a minute. Can you imagine your child asking for a limb amputation … and then consenting to it?
Vigoda explains that her son was born with a rare orthopedic condition that left his right leg “chock-full of pathological fractures” that don’t heal. More than a decade of attempts to fix or treat the painful condition have failed, and now, her son, who is confined to crutches, is asking to have his leg amputated so that he can use a prosthetic — something he and his family hope will give him more freedom to run and play his favorite sport, soccer. (The family has met a preteen with a prosthetic who does, in fact, play competitive soccer.)
Vigoda said it took her months to decide to agree to her son’s wishes to “cut off his leg.” She says her son is the bravest kid she knows.
I urge Vigoda not to sell herself short — she’s pretty brave, too.
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Photo courtesy of Zimra Vigoda/Kveller.com