“Kids are being raised to never have to deal with adversity…I don’t think we are raising a generation that will be able to function in the real world.”
The latest mom to draw the oh-so-easily-earned outrage of the Internet-at-large is a South Dakota woman who thinks we’re all coddling our children too much and raising a generation of victims.
Stephanie Metz, mom to two boys, ages 4 and 2, wrote a manifesto of sorts trashing what she considers to be over-protective parents and said kids being bullied should “toughen up.”
Oh no she di-int.
She implied bullied kids are wimps! As you can imagine, it’s the slap in the face of bullied kids that’s not going over real well.
As ABC News reports, the post, “Why My Kids Are NOT The Center Of My World” was written after Metz’s older son Hendrix, wanted to bring a toy to show and tell but changed his mind because it looked like a gun and it could get him in trouble.
Metz got mad and took to her blog. “How long will it be before their typical boy-ish behavior gets them suspended from school?” She writes.
Well, that depends on what you consider typical, boyish behavior. Your typical boyish behavior might be my red flag for a future school shooting suspect. But yes, lots of kids are already getting suspended for offenses including finger guns and t-shirts, like the one Duck Dynasty t-shirt proclaiming “I Will Hurt You Physically and Metaphysically” that caused one kid to be sent home to change and it does seem a bit silly but comparing that to telling kids who are bullied to just deal with it is apples and oranges. Striving to be so politically correct that the hearts and minds of our children are whitewashed to oblivion is one thing, but downplaying the immense pain that someone on the receiving end of torment is experiencing is a dangerous game. One we’ve already seen can lead to death.
“Understand I am not condoning kids to be cruel to each other, but I think kids need to toughen up when kids are not nice to them.” Metz said.
Metz argues that this kind of constant coddling of our children from anything even remotely violent or “evil” is setting them up for failure. “The mentality of our society in 2013 is nauseating to me, friends,” Metz writes. “I feel like we’re creating a generation of victims,” she later told the Associated Press.
Since writing the post three weeks ago more than a million views have been logged on her blog and Metz estimates it’s been shared through other media sites to surpass 2 million hits. As with most controversial things on the Internet, the post has been met with both praise and, of course, criticism.
Here’s the thing: my job on this Earth is to protect my child. Not to the point where he or she can’t deal with life but if someone is making my kid feel badly I think that, in the end, it’s better to care a little too much then to not care enough in the name of toughening my kid up. So many of us adults carry the scars of a childhood spent at the mercy of mean peers and if I can prevent that from happening with my kids, or just always be there by offering a soft place to fall, I will do it with everything I have because I’M MOM and that’s what moms do.
With kids experiencing more and more at an earlier age I don’t need the world slapping my kid around for me in the name of a life lesson. It’ll happen soon enough and there won’t be a damn thing I can do about it. In the meantime, you bet I’m going to err on the side of coddling over urging my kid to “toughen up.” Ask any bullied kid you know. Do they want/need mom or dad telling them to suck it up or do they need the one soft place they have to land in this world to stay soft? It’s your right and Laura Metz’s right to choose which way you respond, but as for me, I’m plumping up the pillows and patting the spot next to me on my bed.
I’ll love you forever
I’ll like you for always
As long as I’m living my baby you’ll be.
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