Consider this: If you had no kids and could one have one, would you want a boy, a girl, or would the gender not matter?
Depending on how you answered, you might be surprised by the results of a recent Gallup poll that asked the same question.
The Gallup polling agency recently asked 1,020 Americans whether they’d prefer to have a girl or a boy if they could only chose one.
Forty percent said they would want a boy, 28 percent said they would choose a girl, and the remaining participants didn’t mind either way or weren’t exactly sure.
What may be even more startling is that back in 1941, Americans who were asked a similar question had nearly the same results: 38 percent preferring a boy, 24 percent wanted a girl, and the rest had no preference. Throughout the years, the same question has been posed at least eight times and the answers remain relatively the same.
So what does this say about the value of women and the women’s movement?
I have two girls and a boy. Back when I was pregnant with my first daughter, I immediately felt that I didn’t care at all if the baby would be a boy or a girl. And I felt the same way with each subsequent pregnancy. The idea that gender would greatly impact the value of the baby was absurd. My husband felt the same way, never feeling pressured to have a son.
Even President Obama recently said himself that he is fully blessed with his two girls and has no plans to try for another to see if it might be a boy. Yet I know many men who not only want a son, but they want a son first to be the protector and a daughter second. It’s nothing less than a sign of an insecure man, in my opinion. Some say they want to carry on the family name which is nonsensical because a girl can keep her own name now; times have changed in that respect since many women are retaining their maiden names when marrying.
I think it’s sad that despite everything we say about gender equality and the strides we have made in attaining it, both in the workplace and at home, that we still, deep down as a whole don’t value girls and women as much as boys and men.
My two older girls will teach my son how to be a caring man, and a sensitive husband. They are the oldest in our family and just as capable, creative and smart as a son would be. And they can take care of themselves. Isn’t it about time we stop the nonsense notion of the feeble woman who needs to be taken care of?
How did you answer the question? Why did you choose your answer?
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