The countdown is on! With only a couple of days left till Mother’s Day, some of you may still be scrambling to find the perfect gift, card, or activity to celebrate the special moms in your life this Sunday.
I offered some suggestions on Tuesday in my article, “Mother’s Day Gifts: 5 Things Moms Really Want“, and while many of you agreed with the ideas, some of you commented to say a few interesting things about Mother’s Day, and gifts in particular. It made me wonder how traditional today’s moms are when it comes to Mother’s Day.
A few of you objected to the mass commercialization of Mother’s Day. I have to agree with that sentiment because as much the perfect gift can make a mother smile, knowing she is valued and appreciated is what matters most. Impersonal gifts mean less in every circumstance on any holiday.
One savvy reader said: “Mother’s Day has become, like Valentine’s Day, a celebration of consumerism, not a way to honor one’s mother as originally intended. Moreover, mothers who are respected and treated with kindness year-round don’t need a special pretty princess day.”
I love the art projects my son has made me over the years in preschool and now kindergarten. The week of valentine’s day, he made me over a dozen projects using hearts either drawn on or with construction paper, and for the first time this year, wrote out “I love you mom” all by himself. This year, for Mother’s Day, he’s working on a book about the family. I’m excited to see what he prepares.
Another reader went a bit further and said that maybe husbands and boyfriends don’t need to succumb to this gift giving precedence:
I don’t really understand the obligation of husbands to get big Mother’s Day gifts for their wives…their wives are not their mothers.
That made me pause for a second and consider if the Dads in our lives even needed to give a gift. It’s true, motherhood is a gift in itself.
Yesterday, my son bolted out of school with a very conspicuous paper bag in his hand. He had a quirky look on his face as he tried desperately to conceal it. It was dead giveaway, but I still pretended not to notice. We only got about ten feet (not even out of the schoolyard) before he started mumbling to himself “wait or do it now, wait or do it now…. Then he very proudly handed me the bag, and said “I can’t wait anymore.”
His eyes widened with anticipation as I opened it and pulled a painted clay formation from the bag. It spelled out the word, “Supermom”. He explained how he painted it, had carefully chosen the colors, how long it took to dry and how he just couldn’t wait another day to give it to me. Obviously, that meant more to me than any store-bought gift and it is now hanging in my kitchen three days before the actual holiday even gets here.
Does it make whatever gift I will get from husband seem any less valuable? No.
But honestly, it is most certainly the one I will treasure.
Would you be upset if your husband/boyfriend/partner didn’t give you a gift on Mother’s Day? Do the gifts from your kids mean more to you?
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