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New York State Passes Marriage Equality Bill… and My Daughter is Thrilled

By carolyncastiglia |

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The Empire State Building celebrates the passage of the Marriage Equality Act.

“I’m calling to register my support for the Marriage Equality bill,” I told the harried woman on the phone yesterday. I got the number for Dean G. Skelos’ office from a friend who posted it on Facebook, then I called and reposted. And my friends called and reposted. And I left for a show and wasn’t sure what would happen, but I got home just in time last night to catch the final yay vote as it was cast. I couldn’t believe it. The Republican-led New York State Senate passed the Marriage Equality bill, 33-29. And lawmakers said it was all of the phone calls and emails they received from constituents that made the difference. We were all a part of history.

“Oh my God, this is amazing!” I said to my daughter. “They just passed gay marriage!” Just then, the TV footage switched to the crowds at Stonewall and my daughter asked what was happening. “Now girls can marry girls and boys can marry boys,” I told her. “Sometimes girls love girls and boys love boys and now they can get married.”

“Girls can marry girls?,” my 5-year-old retorted incredulously. And then she announced that she wanted to marry her best girlfriend.

Now, whether or not my daughter will grow up to want to marry a girl, I can’t quite say. But I can say that the legalization of gay marriage in New York State will normalize gay for my daughter’s generation, a fact that overwhelms me with joy and has me dumbstruck at how awesome the future might look. As Rahti Gorfien, a mother and life coach in Park Slope, Brooklyn put it this morning on Facebook, “So grateful the gay marriage bill passed in time for it to be a normal part of life as our children grow up. I hope it will eliminate a lot of shame and pain.”

I know it will.  I’m so thrilled for all of my friends, all the gay parents in New York State and humanity in general on this most joyous Pride weekend.  I’m off to host a Pride event this afternoon, and I don’t know how I’ll crack any jokes when I’m just so damn happy!

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8 thoughts on “New York State Passes Marriage Equality Bill… and My Daughter is Thrilled

  1. Michelle says:

    *like* as my husband always says, it will be a glorious day when all of our LGBT friends have the legal right to be as miserable as the rest of us (joking). I am so excited my little boy will be free to love whomever he chooses!

  2. Jenna says:

    I had never thought about it in those terms, that marriage equality will be a totally normal thing for my daughter as she grows up. I’m even more excited now!

  3. wendi says:

    god made adam and eve, not adam and steve. That is sick! New York dissappoints me but then im kinda not surprised because of the crazyness that goes on.

    1. carolyncastiglia says:

      Hahahahahahahaha…. oy.

  4. Denise says:

    I am not happy that this will be the norm for my children when they are growing up. Its great for everyone else who wants their children to grow up liberal and without any distinction between what is right and true versus what has become culturally “normal”. This is just one more battle that those of us who fear God and love his Word will have to face when raising our children to love Him and obey his commands.
    Oh, and for those of you who will say that those of us raising our kids that way are “indoctrinating or brainwashing” them, stop kidding yourself that the liberal ideology of this culture is not doing the same thing, just on the opposite end of the moral spectrum.
    There will come a day when it will be illegal to be a Christian in this country because of everything we hold to be true . . . where is the “tolerance” among liberals for conservative and religious beliefs? It has died with calling anything we say against the lifestyle choices of anyone else to be a hate crime and not simply an expression of our freedom of speech and religion.

  5. Jaeden says:

    Christian fundamentals, you need to get over yourselves. Your religion can state it’s not OK to be gay; it’s a choice you make whether or not to subscribe to that. My religion says I shouldn’t drink beer or eat fish, so I don’t. But that doesn’t mean people who don’t subscribe to my religion shouldn’t be allowed to do those things. Religious rules should be upheld by the people who practice that religion in their own lives, never legislated by the government.

    It’s amazing, the same people who want to carpet bomb Mecca because Muslim women are required to wear the burqua, want to ban everything in this country that goes against their particular brand of Christianity. How ignorant. Preventing this is the whole point of “separation of church and state”. It’s in the Constitution; look it up!

  6. Heather says:

    I’m a practicing Catholic and republican and I think this is wonderful! This is the one issue that I have always disagreed with in my church and political choices! Great job New York!

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