Here at Babble, we’ve taken on the discussion of Mommy Wars. If we’ve learned one thing from this discussion – well, everyone has their own personal opinion and perception of the topic.
As a mom to 4 kids, I have felt the heat of the mommy war debacle since my first pregnancy 10 years ago. I was working in corporate America. The first battle I was presented with was the will you work or stay home with your baby battle. After not being able to breastfeed, I had to become a traitor and cross enemy territory from breastfeeder to becoming a formula mom, entering yet another war zone. When I chose to delay vaccinations with our second child, I was slapped with the “oh no, her kid isn’t fully vaccinated” barrage and was then thrown over to the vaccination war. I took every comment or remark made about my preference personally. I became wounded time and time again in the mommy war battle.
After my fourth child, I came to realize something that changed my view on the mommy wars situation. While yes, I agree the media loves the term and the idea of such – the ONLY mommy war battle that should matter to me is the one that I had been having with myself. My self mommy battle was attempting to be the best mom from the opinions of others. When I learned to stop and just figure out what was best for OUR family – without worrying the world says, I declared Mommy War victory. Sadly it took several kids to figure out this tidbit – but I’m happy to now mute out the voices of judgement.
The beautiful thing about the world we live in is the ability to voice our opinions. Check out the views of these other Babble bloggers and their thoughts on the Mommy Wars:
For the complete Babble Discussion, read the series: Mommy Wars: The Peace Talks
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