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School Bans Transgendered Child From Using Girls’ Restroom

Coy Mathis transgender child_1361980154892_379478_ver1.0_640_480Every time I let myself get a little excited about the progress society has made regarding LGBT issues some crap news story bursts onto the headlines and punches me in the gut.

The latest outrage comes to us courtesy of the lunkheads at the Fountain-Fort Carson School District in Colorado who have decided that first-grader, Coy Mathis, cannot use the girls’ bathroom at her elementary school.

As CNN reports, Coy is a transgendered child. She was born with male sex organs but completely identifies as female. She dresses as a girl and her passport recognizes her as female.

Nonetheless, in December the district told Coy’s parents she can’t use the girls’ room anymore. She has to use the boys’ bathroom or gender-neutral faculty bathrooms. Or hey! How about the nurse’s bathroom? Because being transgendered isn’t already a pretty big hurdle to overcome when trying to fit in and make friends?

Insert slow, sarcastic clap for the Colorado district in charge of our children’s future.

Forcing Coy to use a different bathroom is setting her up for a lifetime of even harsher differentiation than she already faces. Why not just make her wear a sandwich board that says “I’m transgendered!”  The school district’s attorney, W. Kelly Dude, sees it differently, saying the district is not only concerned about Coy but the other students in the building.

“I’m certain you can appreciate that as Coy grows older and his male genitals develop along with the rest of his body, at least some parents and students are likely to become uncomfortable with his continued use of the girls’ restroom.”

Notice he refers to Coy with the wrong pronoun? D-bag. Way to sexualize the situation instead of concerning yourself with the more important issue of fostering an acceptance of Coy that every child deserves no matter what. Why not become part of the solution instead of the problem? Why not use Coy’s situation as an attempt to teach classmates about the differences among the people of the world. You know, the people they will have to learn to live with for the rest of their lives?

That’s what Coy’s parents are hoping for. They’ve announced plans to file a complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division. “Coy’s school has the opportunity to turn this around and teach Coy’s classmates a valuable lesson about friendship, respect and basic fairness.”

Dude, the attorney, doesn’t see it that way. He says there is nothing in Colorado requiring public schools to permit transgender students to use the restrooms of the gender with which they identify. Furthermore,  he says the district goes out of its way to honor Coy’s chosen gender. “Coy attends class as all other students, is permitted to wear girls’ clothes, and is referred to as the parents have requested.”

DUDE. I got news for you, allowing a child to wear clothing and referring to the child the way the parents request is no great feat. You do that for every kid who wears clothes to school and has a name. Oh, but wait. Dude says this whole kerfuffle is silly because Coy has easy access to bathrooms other than the girls’ restroom.

How can someone so blatantly miss the point? No wonder kids are growing up all messed up. With people like Dude on the scene defending the right of a bunch of district yokels trying to make a kid who already has a hell of an uphill life battle feel like crap. Newsflash jerkoffs! Coy doesn’t care about private parts right now. She just wants to be treated the same way as everyone else. And when she grows up and uses girls’ restrooms in high school she’s not going to stand there flashing her genitals at everyone, as Dude seems to imply, she’ll go into a stall just like every other girl.

For now Coy is being home-schooled. My heart breaks for this little girl who has probably already experienced a lot of confusion in her short life. Let her be who she wants to be! It isn’t hurting anyone. Allowing her to do the things all her girl classmates do is only helping a little girl blossom into the woman she wants to be.

Photo credit: thedenverchannel.com

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