You have lots of different kinds of friends: couple friends, single friends, party friends, smarty friends, and friends of the opposite sex.
While a Y chromosome shouldn’t decide whether or not you can be friends with someone, forming a deep friendship with a member of the opposite sex while in a committed relationship has potential trouble written all over it.
YourTango’s team of relationship experts got together to offer signs of emotional infidelity that can often creep up in friendship between the sexes. Should you find yourself becoming more than “just friends”; you’ll want to check these signs of emotional infidelity before you wreck your relationship:
You think about him (lots): Your best male friend is never far from your thoughts. In fact, you think more about him than your own partner, wondering what he’s doing, how he’s doing, and likely even who he’s doing.
You tell people you’re “just friends”: If people are asking about your relationship with this guy, huge alarms should be going off in your head. Pay attention to what others are seeing!
You share intimate life details with him: Sharing personal secrets you’ve never shared with your partner is a huge emotional infidelity red flag.
You discover he’s changing you: If suddenly his interests become your own and your change is undeniable to even your partner, it’s time to evaluate the role he plays in your life.
You get dolled up for him: You care about looking your best for your next encounter with him. Maybe you wear your hair the way he likes, or purchase clothing with his taste in mind.
You are happier with him: You laugh more and feel generally happier around him than you do your partner.
You go out of your way to spend time with him: You ditch your partner, friends, and in some cases even work to find creative ways to spend time with him.
You fib to your partner: Lying by omission, half-truths, and white lies are all measures of dishonesty. According to relationship coach Charlotte A. Michie, “If there’s nothing going on, then telling your partner should not be a problem.” Michie encourages you to search your conscious for the honesty of your intentions.
You socially “stalk” him: You anxiously await every status change across his social media networks so you can carefully over-analyze every post and photograph in an effort to learn more about him.
You show off around him: He has the power to bring out the most inviting and alluring version of yourself.
You communicate electronically: You fill the void of physical separation with increasing electronic communication. If you’re feeling that teenage girl excitement with every new message, it’s time to stop and analyze. According to relationship coach Judith Tutin, “When the balance of who you communicate with tips away from your significant other toward someone else, it’s a sure sign of trouble in both relationships.”
You do special things for him (and only him): No matter how seemingly innocent, doing special things for him that you don’t do for others should make you question your personal intentions.
For 9 more signs of emotional infidelity, visit YourTango.
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