As tired as I am of the topic of who mom bloggers are and what they should be called, after hearing the disrespect drip from the voice of a male technical journalist during a podcast today, I think the time has come for us to lose the term “mommy blogger” and instead use “mom blogger”.
Despite the fact that it was a few mom bloggers who coined the phrase and that many others followed by naming and branding their blogs as “mommy blogs”, the term is now too often used to condescendingly categorize all moms who blog.
I believe we need to put a stop to the use of the term “mommy blogger” and encourage people to instead use “mom blogger” and to only use it when accurate.
That means a woman who is a mother, who blogs predominately about being a mother can be called a mom blogger.
Conversely, a woman who is a mother and blogs about photography, design, technology, cooking or anything besides mothering is NOT a mom blogger – and I don’t care how many babies she’s pushed out. Those babies do NOT define her any more than the sperm that spawned his offspring defines President Obama as a “daddy politician”.
As Catherine pointed out that the term mompreneur is valuable to describe “a business that is rooted in her experience of motherhood, such that the ‘mom’ angle is absolutely relevant and even central to the business and its marketing”, the classification of “mom blogger” is useful when the blogger is writing about motherhood.
For years, Janice and I have politely suggested that the term “mom blogger” is more respectful and appropriate than “mommy blogger”, but now I’m shouting it.
The genre of mom blogging has proven it’s power and those who want to dismiss it as unimportant and less worthy than other forms of blogging need to open their minds and recognize that they are making uninformed, disrespectful judgments.
I do not want to hear men or women, journalists or otherwise, categorize an entire industry of women who are using technology to share their stories, opinions and knowledge as inferior “mommy bloggers”.
Yes, some women blog about the joys and challenges of parenting young children. Yes, some of them refer to themselves as “mommies”. Some of them even use the term “mommy” in the names of their blogs.
But the term “mommy” — unless it is used by small children or by mothers to refer to themselves in relation to their own children — usually drips disrespect.
Sure in past, Janice and I have used the term “mommy blog” and we have optimized for it and we had never been personally offended by it, but now we’re wondering if it is possible for us all collectively to rebrand the genre.
Could we as a community try to help retire the term “mommy blog”? When referring to the category of blogs written by moms and that are about being a mom, call them “mom blogs”.
Please leave a comment and tell us…
- Do you personally feel offended by the term “mommy blog”? Do you refer to yourself as a “mom blogger”, “mommy blogger”, “professional blogger” or some other classification of bloggers such as “design blogger”?
- Do you think some people use the term “mommy blog” in a disrespectful way and have you personally experienced – either reading or hearing – someone using the classification negatively?