First off, let me say that it would freak me out to no end to share my wife with another man, let alone two, or three, or how ever many other brother husbands she may want to have if polygamy were legal. So deep down, I’m not a big fan of this type of family life.
But this review of the popular HBO show “Big Love” — a fabulous drama that looks at a fictitious ultra-Mormon family that makes polygamy work, most of the time — makes the idea sound downright grand.
“While I would never be a religious fundamentalist of any stripe, I like the idea of sharing my daily chores and routines with my two best friends. There would always someone there to help out and I wouldn’t be lonely, as I sometimes am, but when there got to be too much togetherness, I could retreat to my own home, decorated just the way I like.”
Sure, if it were just about sharing chores and jobs around the house, I’d be all for it. Bring in as many brother husbands or sister wives as you want. But is that really family life?
The essay ran in one of my favorite new web sites — Shareable.net, which takes a look at the bonds and connections and “sharing” between humans and animals and, well, everything. We are all connected in some way.
Leaving out gender, religious, legal and a million other issues, I don’t think you can share the kind of intimacy you have in marriage with more than one person at a time, even if you are, in fact, married to that other person. Housework, sure. But real love? I’m not convinced. You?
Mike @ Cry It Out!