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Things You Should Never Say To Your Husband, What's On Your List?

By Danielle Sullivan |

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Has your tone changed since kids popped into the picture?

Do you tell your husband everything? Or do you selectively keep some information private?

Everyone has a filter that regularly omits bits of information in our marriages and each of our filters are different. Some edit out shopping excursions, thoughts on his friends, or what we really think of his taste in music and clothes. And husbands, likewise do the same with wives.

Sometimes we do this to spare our spouse’s feelings but sometimes, often in the throws of an argument, we let loose and say things we shouldn’t. We’ve all done it and we’ll probably all do it again one time or another.

Although our individual grievances differ, psychologists often warn us that there are certain things that should never be said.

Woman’s Day recently listed the top things you should never say to your husband:

1. “Yes, I had an orgasm.” (when you didn’t)

2. “You’re just like your father.

3. “When are you going to find a new job?”

4. “My mother warned me you’d do this!”

5. “Just leave it––I’ll do it myself!

6. “You always… [fill in the blank]” or “You never… [fill in the blank]”

7. “Do you really think those pants are flattering?”

8. “Ugh, we’re hanging out with him again?

9. “Please watch the kids. But don’t do this, take them here or forget that…”

The problem in most of these scenarios is the underlying tone and intention behind the words. Even though they might not sound blatantly terrible, in many cases, they cause resentment.

I admit I’ve definitely uttered a few of these, particularly numbers 5 and 6. It’s something I have improved upon each year but it can be so difficult to retain your calm in the midst of a heated argument at the end of a hectic day. Communication is such a vital part of any relationship and luckily there is always room for improvement.

Are you guilty of uttering these phrases? Which ones hit home for you?

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Danielle Sullivan writes for Babble Pets. She is also an award-winning parenting writer, who authors a monthly column for NY Parenting and ASPCA Parents blog. You can read more of her work at her blog,Some Puppy To Love. Read bio and latest posts → Read Danielle's latest posts →

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6 thoughts on “Things You Should Never Say To Your Husband, What's On Your List?

  1. Andrea says:

    I don’t say any of those things. Most of them are just mean. “When are you going to find a new job” – that’s just cruel. “Do you really think those pants are flattering?” Any woman who says this is just a plain old witch. Horrible.

  2. Christine says:

    I’ve decided that the words “I told you so” have no place in a marriage, and belong on this list as equally useless and unproductive. A strong marriage is all about good communication–if you wouldn’t want to hear it from your spouse, you shouldn’t be saying it to him/her either!

  3. jenny says:

    2. You’re just like your father.
    My husband would and does take this as a compliment. We admire the kind of man his father is and he is proud to be like him.

  4. bob says:

    And, whatever you do, don’t add “…in bed” to anything on that list.

  5. Bunnytwenty says:

    hahah, bob! brilliant!

  6. Debbie G says:

    Ok, I’m guilty of telling him to just leave it, I’ll do it myself. But, in all honesty, I think he messes it up on purpose so that I will finish it anyways! The others are just plain mean, it reminds me of the new commercial about unlimited text and calling where the woman says “My mother told me I should have married”……..

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