In a new survey performed by leading dating site Match.com, results show that single men want to have children more than single women. Twenty-four percent of single men without children under the age of 18 want to have children while only fifteen percent of the women surveyed want kids. The study also reveals that 33 percent of both men and women want to get married.
Keep in mind, the survey is not exactly from a scientific journal and although Match.com is saying the study is the most comprehensive American study of its kind, it has been released right in time for pre-Valentine Day’s sign-ups. The results were likely meant to draw more women into keeping hope alive that there is that special someone out there who is looking for nothing more than to settle down and start a family.
Could it be true?
With women gaining broader independence and no longer having to rely on husbands for financial compensation, it stands to reason that women are putting off marriage and motherhood, at least until the threat of their biological clock sets in. Yet with so many fertility options today, even that fear is weakening. I have seen this time and time again in my single female friends. In fact, I hope that’s what my daughters do: have a career and enjoy the single life in their twenties before settling down. I see that as a healthy expectation.
Also, amid the various choices for career and personal growth and satisfaction, many women are no longer compelled to have children at all. A growing number of American women no longer feel societal pressure or the need to have kids to make their life whole. That is also something I am seeing expand in my own social circle as well.
The part that throws me off is that more single guys want kids than women? The majority of single men I know and have known aren’t really thinking about ticking biological clocks and finding Ms. Right. Rather they are concerned with goals and choices that many single women are facing: finding job satisfaction (or a job in general in today’s economy), advancing in their career, and pursuing personal growth opportunities.
According to the Huffington Post, Dr. Helen Fisher, chief scientific advisor of the study says not so fast, if you look at the date, you’ll see how time has changed and romantic gender roles have been reversed:
“I’m amazed this study hasn’t been done before but in my literature search I’ve found nothing as comprehensive,” says Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and chief scientific advisor for Chemistry.com and Match.com who led the study.
Dr. Fisher adds, “This survey busts some entrenched myths about women, men, sex and love. In fact, today’s singles are returning to dating patterns that are highly compatible with our ancient human brain…With a few remarkable exceptions: men are now expressing some traditionally female attitudes while women are adopting some of those long attributed to men!”
Have the tides really turned? Do you think more men want kids than women?
Source: Huffington Post