Ugh. When a viewer of the CBN show “The 700 Club” asks for advice about how to forgive and move past her husband’s infidelity, Pat Robertson advises her to understand that men tend to wander, and to focus on what’s really important: her husband’s ability to buy her clothes.
Robertson tells the woman to stop worrying about the cheating, and to remember what’s really at stake: “Does he provide a home for you? Does he provide food for you to eat? Does he provide clothes for you to wear?”
Because that’s totes all any woman should expect out of a marriage, right? And if a man brings home a paycheck, we should keep our mouths shut and be grateful.
“Like it or not, males have a tendency to wander a little bit,” the Rev. Robertson advises. “What you want to do is make your home so wonderful, that he doesn’t want to wander.”
Because obviously it’s all your fault, lady.
“Think of the temptations that are out there,” he continues. “The Internet is filled with pornography. Magazines are filled with pictures, salacious pictures of women. Anywhere you turn around, there’s some solicitation to the senses, to entice a man.”
So, salacious women are also at fault. But definitely not your husband because oh my gosh, it’s just soooooo tempting out there.
“What you have to do is say, ‘my husband was captured, and I want to get him free.'”
That is the point where I’m just, “what the ACTUAL fark are you talking about, Pat?” Her husband was captured? And it’s the wife’s job to free him? Why is all the personal responsibility here on the woman?
After I came out of my rage blackout, I realized Robertson was still talking–something about being grateful to be married and living in America.
Why does Pat Robertson think so poorly of men? Why doesn’t he think they’re capable of resisting temptation? He doesn’t even suggest that the woman’s husband could be doing things to work on their marriage. He also, oddly, makes no mention of the many passages of the Bible that offer genuine advice on forgiveness. (Matthew 6:9-15 might have been a good place to start.)
I know and respect too many honest, upstanding men to buy into Robertson’s “boys will be boys” argument.
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