My oldest child recently turned 7 years old and is very much in tune with her mother’s affinity for the Internet. She’s into playing games and watching videos on YouTube on her own laptop and Skyping with Grandma or making pretend vlogs with her webcam. The thing about her being so aware of the sharing aspect of computing is that she is keenly aware that Mommy posts things about her and her siblings online.
Oh my, when did this happen?
When I started blogging 5 years ago, it was in typical “mommy blog” (sorry Susan!) fashion: cute photos of my kids, cute anecdotes about my kids, activities that I did with my kids – you get the picture. Over time, as I came to find my blogging voice, I realized that my blog content shifted to be less about my kids and more about me as a parent balancing all that comes with the job, and about my interests. So instead of writing about the birthday party that my kid was invited to, I may have written instead about how hectic it was for me to get everyone there on time, with a gift and dressed in a presentable fashion. My posts were becoming increasingly more about my challenges and triumphs as “Mom” rather than what milestone Giggles may have reached that month. And that was ok with me. In fact, it felt more like “me.”
Of course, I still want to be able to share photos and stories and updates with family and friends, so naturally Facebook is the way to go. I Facebook photos all the time – to the point where now Chatterbox runs and hides when I whip out my smartphone to snap a shot. I am constantly hit with a: “Come on Mom! Are you gonna put that on FACEBOOK?” To which I think “Duh. Of course.” But I only say “Maybe. Why? Don’t you want Grandma to see it?” And I wonder – am I making my kids apprehensive of the simple joy of smiling for a pic? When did that happen? Am I a paparazzi in my own home?
And does this mean the time has come to stop blogging about them? When did that happen?
And so I ask: WHAT DOES A MOM BLOGGER DO WHEN HER FODDER IS OFF LIMITS?