When Your Pregnancy Goes Public Before You're ReadyDanielle Sullivan
When I was pregnant with my first child, we didn’t want to know if she was a boy or a girl. We wanted to prolong the suspense and be fully surprised at her birth. We did the same thing with our second child, who was another beautiful daughter. The third and last time I was pregnant, we planned on doing the same thing … waiting until the birth to see if we had a new son or a daughter.
So on my regular sonogram, when the technician asked if we wanted to know what the baby was, I said nonchalantly no, we were going to wait. Then he said, “Are you sure? I can tell you right now.”
I paused for a moment and then (like the child I am) I completely caved and said yes, tell me now. “It’s a boy!” he said. And I couldn’t believe it. I was both leery and thrilled to be having a boy.
Once we knew what we were having, we told everyone. I couldn’t keep it a secret, just as I couldn’t ever keep the fact that I was pregnant a secret all three times. I wanted to share the news.
But not everyone does.
Just look at Beyonce. She kept the pregnancy rumors at bay until she was ready to let the world know at the VMAs by proudly baring her baby bump. Then this past week, after she and her hubby Jay-Z tried very hard to keep the sex of their baby under wraps, her close friend Kelly Rowland mistakenly said this to a group of reporters:
“I think her dad [Jay-Z] is gonna give her everything anyways, all I can give her is love. I think she’ll be very well behaved.”
Rumors have been swirling for weeks now that a girl was in store for the happy couple after Jay-Z’s sister was reported to have ordered a pink pair of custom booties, but the couple has never gone public with the news.
Granted the couple is famous, and fame brings about a whole different set of circumstances for celebrity couples, so I understand how they might not want much information getting out regarding their child.
But I’m wondering how many non-famous couples tried to keep the gender or pregnancy itself and then were mistakenly outed by their friends. On one hand, it’s a joyous celebration, but on the other hand it is private information. Still, if you tell someone, there is always a risk that they might slip up (and feel terrible about it). So if you absolutely don’t want anyone to know, keep it to yourself!
Were you ever outed by a friend or relative that you were pregnant? Or that you were having a boy or a girl? How did you handle it?