That’s not to say every woman feels that way, in fact, science has learned they don’t. Live Science reports in a study of 304 women, 85 percent started having intercourse again by 12 weeks postpartum. While I agree this isn’t shocking information, what might surprise you is the reason why.
Contrary to popular belief, exhaustion and childbirth healing aren’t the only factors in determining how soon a woman resumes sexual activity. The study found that a woman’s perception of her partner’s sexual needs played a significant role in her sexual timing, suggesting some women resume sexual activity before they’re necessarily ready. Say it isn’t so! While it’s obviously none of my business, I can’t help but think Tori Spelling’s rapid fourth pregnancy serves as a prime example. Tori admitted to US Weekly, “The doctor said, ‘Wait six weeks [to have sex],’ and Dean was like, ‘They tell everyone that.’ We didn’t wait that long with Stella or Liam. I was like, ‘Well, I don’t want him to think that the sex is going downhill,’ so now we’re on baby No. 4.” Wow, that Tori is way more sensitive to her husband’s needs than I’d ever be. And just so you know Tori, if ever there was a time to be stingy with your lady bits, it would be postpartum.
The study found women’s postpartum sexual desire to be influenced by the psychological and physical aspects of her birthing experience, her level of social support, and feelings of intimacy toward her partner. Surprisingly, the study also found stress, body image, breastfeeding, and vaginal trauma did not impact how soon women resumed sexual activity. Top sex drive buzzkills included fatigue, infant sleeping habits and shortage of time.
And listen to this — dads who witnessed the birth of their child actually reported a higher sexual desire after birth than those who weren’t present for the birth! Please join me in a collective, “Huh?” The study didn’t go into detail as to why, but as a non-scientist who’s still collecting fragments of my exploded head, I’m guessing it has something to do with a new appreciation for the wonder and beauty of the female form. At least I hope.
What are your thoughts on the postpartum sex findings?
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