A working mom might not be the “caregiver” during the day for her kids, but she’s the one still carrying the burden.
According to a story over at MSNBC this week, women are overwhelmingly making the childcare arrangements for their kids, and the cost of paying the sitter comes out of her paycheck.
So why is this a non-story? As one mom points out in the article, where the money comes to pay the childcare doesn’t matter if you’re talking about sharing expenses as a couple – he’s simply paying another bill out of his check. And if only one parent is taking on the role of pick up and drop off, could it be because of scheduling conflicts?
Or did you just not ASK the guy to pick up the kids? Yet another story about the oafish father who has to be prodded along to do his duties, this one gave me a headache.
Linda Laughlin, a family demographer for the Census bureau, says they turn to mothers for childcare information because women are taking the initiative and getting it done. “In the last 30 years, we have see more involvement from the fathers, but because of cultural norms, it still falls on moms,” Laughlin told MSNBC.
And if you keep turning to Mom to ask her, of course it will fall on her.
Of course, Mom, if you keep taking it on . . . well . . . It may be an oversimplification, but if you don’t want to have the childcare burden fall on your shoulders, don’t let it. Ask him to do pick up. Ask him to pay that bill out of his paycheck (just don’t be surprised when he hands you the electric bill . . . or the phone bill).
And stop complaining because when you work, you now have a new burden. Can we stop being victims here, please?
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