Would You Marry When Kids Told You To?toddler-times
My perma-crush on actor dad Johnny Depp just suffered a big blow. In a run down of Hollywood couples who are happily unmarried (most of them parents), The Frisky quotes Captain Jack Sparrow himself saying he’ll marry long-time love and mother of his kids Vanessa Paradis “if the kids want us to.”
Sweet? I guess, but what’s the point?
If you’re not getting married because you don’t think it’s necessary to have that piece of paper, doesn’t it hold that you’d feel the same way as the kids age?
I do happen to be one of those smug marrieds who was five years into this here wedded bliss by the time pregnancy came into the picture, so I confess I’m totally mystified by this one. Not by people who don’t get married – different strokes for different folks and all that. But by folks who let their kids dictate whether or not they’re married.
What is every so-called “shotgun” wedding? Not a meeting of the minds or a union dictated by love (even if you were engaged, it wasn’t you making the choice to speed things up), but by the kid-to-be. Ditto swearing off on marriage only to flip flop when your kids say “hey, when are you two crazy kids getting hitched.”
What does that tell your kids? Marriage may not seem like a big choice after you’ve been together a decade and have two kids to show for it, but if it isn’t – why haven’t you done it before?
I’m all for people skipping the certificate if that’s their thing (again, my marriage is my personal choice here), but if you’re doing it for a REASON, then don’t you want to show your kids you stand up for your beliefs? If marriage doesn’t mean that much to you, how about setting an example to your kids. When they ask, lay it out there: “no, Mommy and Daddy don’t need a piece of paper” or “no, Mommy and Daddy don’t think it’s fair to marry until California gets off its high horse and lets Adam and Steve do it too.”
Whatever your reason for not getting married, it’s your choice folks. Just as you’d hope your kids make their own choices some day.
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