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YOU Are Mom Enough: Mom Bloggers Refuse The "Mommy Wars"

By cecilyk |

Apparently, extended nursing happened in 1630 too. (Painting by Pieter de Grebber,"Mother and Child")

Another Mother’s Day approaches, and another traditional media magazine tries to fuel the fans of controversy with an inflammatory photo (a beautiful woman defiantly nursing her four year old) and an even more inflammatory headline (Are You Mom Enough?).

Worse, apparently, the article has almost nothing to do with the title of the piece; it’s actually an article about attachment parenting and Dr. Sears, the pediatrician often credited with launching the attachment parenting movement, not about who is “mom enough.”

This time, though, I saw something I hadn’t seen before: mom bloggers spotted the article early on (it hits the news stands tomorrow) and instead of getting up in arms about the content, they knew it for what it was. And decided it was time to step up, stop the judging, and instead embrace motherhood in all its forms.

I’ve seen countless people say just that on twitter, and Katherine Stone here at Babble led the charge with this great post where moms of all kinds celebrated each other.

I’m so happy to see this.

The thing is, we are ALL mom enough.

The attachment moms.

The working moms.

The first moms.

The adoptive moms.

The single moms.

The moms that let their kids watch TV, and the moms that don’t allow any tv at all.

The moms that make organic baby food, and the moms that shop at Walmart.

The moms that yell, and the moms that don’t.

The moms that spank, and the moms that don’t.

The moms that embrace princesses, and the moms that refuse to allow Disney in their houses.

The infertile moms, and the moms of six or more.

The moms who never got to hold their living children.

All of us are enough.

Yes, that means YOU.

You are enough.

Happy Mother’s Day.

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Cecily Kellogg writes all over the web, including here at Babble for Voices and Tech. She neglects her own blog, Uppercase Woman. Read bio and latest posts → Read Cecily's latest posts →

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17 thoughts on “YOU Are Mom Enough: Mom Bloggers Refuse The "Mommy Wars"

  1. Christina Gleason @ Cutest Kid Ever says:

    Happy Mother’s Day! It takes a village to raise a child. It takes a village to support a mom. We’re all in this together. We’re all in the trenches of the “mommy wars,” where we all fight to get the most out of each day in whatever way is best for our respective families. :-)

  2. Susan (5 Minutes for Mom) says:

    Amen Sister!

    We are all Mom Enough and we are tired of the media trying to get us fighting.
    I wrote a response post…

    FACT: Mommy Wars Do Not Exist
    http://www.5minutesformom.com/55755/mommy-wars-do-not-exist/

  3. Kristin says:

    Absolutely beautiful! Preach on, Sister Cecily!

  4. Virginia says:

    Thank you!!

  5. Jo-Lynne {Musings of a Housewife} says:

    LOVE THIS.

  6. Steph Calvert says:

    Yeah!!!!!

  7. Rajean says:

    This is more than enough. Lovely. Thank you.

  8. Megan says:

    Amen.

  9. Liza (Mama Jabber) says:

    Word. Shame on Time for inflaming the issue. I’m glad to know we are smart and caring enough to look beyond this ridiculousness and celebrate all moms’ best efforts for their kids.

  10. Kate says:

    Well said. Let’s not forget that Jamie is a fellow blogger and friend (hence why we knew what was happening before the rest of the media ;) . The power of the blogging community is so strong and I’m happy to see that even if we don’t agree with all her decisions we can still choose to love. :)

  11. Morgan (The818) says:

    Happy Mothers Day Beautiful Cecily.

  12. Jeannine says:

    Here is my take The Kid’s Alright…And It’s ‘TIME’ To Play Nice! http://shar.es/2IlyG
    Happy Mother’s Day and Play Nice with other Mom’s!

  13. Shandra says:

    See…I actually applaud Time for caring about moms and the pressures on them. The cover was provocative, but only because people react weirdly to moms who a) nurse a long time and b) are beautiful. But they were real people! The discussion was and has been good.

    Sometimes I feel like I’m living in an alternate universe from the blog world. I didn’t take the tagline personally. I thought it did describe a _particular_ branch of AP parenting advocacy that _is_ mean to moms. If you want to end the mommy wars don’t blast other moms (And Cecily I have to say…you don’t. You do get the high ground here.)

  14. Shandra says:

    Also, Cecily, I’m going to ask — but feel free not to answer as it’s pretty personal — you made the decision to quit your job and stay home, in part, if I remember right, to be more present with your daughter. And that had a big economic impact on your family, which you have since righted. I admire and appreciate your struggle and your candour as you have been going through it. But don’t you think that you did that in the context of a culture that kind of pressured you to aim for an ideal of motherhood? One that I do believe Dr. Sears and his always-breastfeeding, baby-wearing Martha who gave up her career have perpetuated. I say that as someone who has tried to combine AP with work (and a generous Canadian mat leave.)

    That’s why I appreciated the Time article quite a bit. The cover’s a cover, ehn. I prefer it to “GET THESE ABS IN 25 DAYS.”

  15. Leslie Irish Evans says:

    Bless you, Cecily! I, too, was really happy to see so many moms write about not taking this ridiculous bait that TIME was dishing out. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of guilt and/or self-righteousness. Advertisers prey upon those toxic feelings, and when we allow them to we reinforce the kind of thoughts and behaviors that hold us back as women. Thank you for your lovely post.

  16. Natalie says:

    Yes!! I loved that the the mom community didn’t give a flip about this cover or blatant attempt at creating drama.

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