Grandparents play a very special role in our kids’ lives, but they’re also famous for overindulging them. This can wreak havoc in our homes after grandma and grandpa leave, but the good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are 8 common “grandparent problems” and how you can fix them.
You’re not going to stop grandparents from buying their grandkids stuff, but you can influence what they buy. When I mentioned to my mom that my daughter needed shoes for school, she sent her home with a new pair of shoes instead of yet another stuffed animal.
They treat your kids to lots and lots of ice cream 3 of 16
Let grandparents know that you don’t expect them to fight with their grandkids about eating vegetables, but that you do expect them to make sure your kids eat something, even if it’s just a fun food like mac and cheese.
Grandparents often accept disobedience because they don’t want to be a tough disciplinarian with their grandkids. Let them know that if they don’t want to be tough, a sweetly said, “It’s not OK to talk like that,” will help you a lot more than if they ignore it.
Try sending your kids to your grandparents’ house with outdoor toys, like a new soccer ball or some bubbles. That way when your grandparents ask your kids to go outside and play they’ll be more likely to listen.
They allow them to stay up past their bedtime 13 of 16
Communication as always is the first step in fixing these problems. However, if that doesn’t work one trick that a family therapist probably wouldn't recommend is to pick up your kids later than usual after a night with your parents. That way they’ll see first hand how cranky your kids get after a late night!
Remind your parents of a time when you acted poorly in public and thoroughly upset them. The more you can do to put them in the “parents” mindset instead of “grandparents” mindset, the more likely they will be to back you up.