I always grew up with two cats in the house and when my older two passed away, I knew I wanted to have a pair of pets again… once I was ready. We adopted Ariel, a 3-year-old female cat, when Puff passed away. And when Ming died, we adopted a second cat a 3-month-old male kitten named Gmork.
We did a lot of research before welcoming a second cat on the best way to make the introduction. We got a cat of the opposite gender who was neutered and a kitten. According to all of our reading, that was the best pairing for our slightly older female cat. Gmork was playful and adorable when we met with him at the shelter and it was clear Ariel needed companionship, since she seemed to become sad and bored as the days went on.
We welcomed Gmork back in September. Here we are 4 months later and it’s not really going the way I had planned and hoped.
To be honest, I think they hate each other. And that’s sad! I grew up with Puff and Ming who were brothers. They cuddled, played, and fought. It was a true sibling bond. I had hopes that Ariel and Gmork would be found cuddling on a pillow together or adorably grooming each other, but no dice.
I know that it’s only been 4 months and there is still time. They may adjust. There has been a lot of change around here welcoming our 4th child and having the three older kids home all the time since we just started homeschooling. Our house is in a state of slightly organized chaos and that could be stressing the cats out too.
Or they just don’t like one another. I don’t know what to do if that is what it all comes down to. Gmork wants to play with Ariel and she has no interest. His playing has escalated into what looks like territorial dominance, and that’s not good. I don’t want him to grow and become aggressive or for her to be afraid. I don’t want to have to keep the two separate and I don’t want to give one of them up either.
So, what’s a concerned cat mama to do?
Any advice for me?
Photo credit: © Devan McGuinness
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