The guilt I feel after losing my twins at 20 weeks is terrible because of these past conflicting emotions. And yet, it wasn’t my fault. Having hyperemesis gravidarum, or extreme morning sickness, isn’t something that I caused or made worse — or can make better. It’s simply there, and more than likely any pregnancy I have will incur this illness.
Blogging about it, and finding other women who connected with me, helped tremendously. During my first pregnancy with my daughter, I felt like I was just being dramatic. If I could only buck up, it would get better. I had no idea I had HG until 24 weeks into my pregnancy and didn’t even know what that diagnosis meant. Only that a small amount of women suffer from it, and it seemed to be something no one really talked about at the time.
Many family members and friends can’t comprehend what HG really feels like. Some become angry, unsympathetic as time passes, or treat it as a joke. It’s important to educate yourself, so you can know what you are dealing with and so you know it is absolutely a real issue. Not something you made up for attention! Women used to die from this (and still do) before doctors were able to help enough to get them nutrition and keep them hydrated.
As the years have passed, I’ve seen a broadening community band together over hyperemesis. Women who fight for the label of “just morning sickness” to be removed. Because HG isn’t morning sickness. It’s 9 months (or less) of hell where you question your decision (and sanity) to have another baby every day. Now with the announcement of Princess Kate suffering from it, a new light and interest has been shined on HG.
I researched books written by doctors, hyperemesis gravidarum survivors, and novels to share with you. Even if you know someone who is struggling with this, please read up on it. I can’t tell you how it felt to have someone say to me, “Oh, I know about that!” And truly did. What a blessing. Some books are for you, some are perfect for a spouse or family members, and there is one to help your children deal with this issue too.
Mama Has Hyperemesis Gravidarum (But Only For A While) 1 of 10The little bunny's mom is so sick, isn't having a baby supposed to be fun? This book explains to children about hyperemesis while reassuring them how they feel about Mom having it is normal. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $9.25
Beyond Morning Sickness: Battling Hyperemesis Gravidarum 2 of 10Medical info and personal stories combine to offer women and their families information on Hyperemesis and how to help during this time. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $9.99
The First 20 Weeks: My Journey with Hyperemesis Gravidarum 3 of 10A look into the 2010 pregnancy of a woman who decided to chronicle what happened with Hyperemesis 2 years later in a novel. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $2.99 (Kindle)
Morning Sickness 24/7: Fifty Ways to Help Cope With Hyperemesis Gravidarum 4 of 1050 tips are given to both moms and caregivers in this book, along with stories from women who have survived HG to uplift and reaffirm a rough pregnancy. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $13.95
Body Mutiny: Surviving Nine Months of Extreme Morning Sickness 5 of 10The author shares her 40 weeks with HG and details the suffering and inability to eat or drink, along with the response from medical staff and family. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $14.95
The Good, The Bad, The Blessing 6 of 10Written by a mom, this book details her struggle with not only Hyperemesis Gravidarum, but the postpartum depression she suffered after. She gives an uplifting account of her son's life being the reason for this book helping others. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $12.00
Managing Morning Sickness: A Survival Guide for Pregnant Women 7 of 10Years of studies on thousands of women add up to a book full of advice and remedies for mild to severe morning sickness. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $13.33
The Proving Grounds 8 of 10A novel set in 1966, Rose is 16 when her mother is sent to an institution and she becomes pregnant. Rose finds out she has hyperemesis, and while the doctors try to pinpoint it as a punishment for her mother's insanity, she struggles to survive and protect her child. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $19.99
Pregnancy is not an illness…Hyperemesis Gravidarum IS 9 of 10A brutally honest book with stories from moms who have experienced HG, including moms who went to full term and others who ended a pregnancy because of how bad the Hyperemsis was. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $2.39 (Kindle)
Morning Sickness Companion 10 of 10A comforting, encouraging read for moms with HG. No ginger ale or lollipop remedies here. Read more and purchase book on Amazon $56.12
(Please talk with your doctor if you have or think you have Hyperemesis Gravidarum. The above is not medical advice but personal experience.)
MORE FROM DIANA:
- Hyperemesis Gravidarum is not Just Morning Sickness: 5 Ways it Differs
- Let’s Talk About Cruising With Disney: My Favorite Memories
- Most Popular Fertility Products for Him, Her, and Every Budget
- 17 Must-Haves for Indulgent Labor and Postpartum Hospital Birth Kits for the Crunchy Mama
- Making the Sacrifice: Pregnancy with Hyperemesis