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10 Myths About Trying to Conceive
by Babble Editors
| Posted 3 years ago
Myth 1: I will get pregnant as soon as we stop using birth control.
It can be awfully confusing to stop using birth control and find your periods coming month after month. But, for the majority of couples, conception does not take place the first month they try to conceive. In fact, healthy couples only have a one in four chance of conceiving in any given cycle.
Myth 2: I never used a hormonal birth control method, so we should get pregnant as soon as we start trying.
Just because your hormones weren't under influence from contraceptives doesn't necessarily put you at an advantage. Your body may be better able to regulate itself, this doesn't mean you can get pregnant easier. Your fertility can be influenced by factors other than contraceptives, and can be problematic for no apparent reason.
Myth 3: We are both very healthy; there is no way we could have infertility problems.
While you may feel perfectly fit and healthy on the outside, feeling this way is no indicator of your fertility. Many men
and women have fertility problems
, yet show no outward signs. Of course, being unhealthy can be a risk factor for infertility
, but it does not necessarily work the other way around.
Myth 4: If we aren't pregnant in the first few months of trying, there must be something wrong.
Those sex-ed teachers really want you to believe you can get pregnant at the drop of a hat, don't they! But, according to the American Society of Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), a couple isn't considered infertile
until they have been trying to conceive for one year. That's a long time to keep trying without worrying, and 80 percent of healthy couples will conceive by this time.
Myth 5: If we have sex often enough, we will get pregnant.
Unless your partner has a problem with his sperm
count, by all means, have all the sex you want! But it is important to realize that you only need to have sex
during a few crucial days of each month. These are the days you ovulate, and unfortunately, you could have sex 29 days out for a 30-day cycle and still miss ovulation. Timing, not repetitiveness, is important.
Myth 6: As long as I am younger than 35, I am very fertile.
While it is true that a woman's fertility dramatically decreases once she is older than age 35
, women in their 20s can also have fertility problems. You are most fertile in your 20s, but each year that passes without pregnancy can increase your risk to fertility problems.
Myth 7: I will get pregnant if I have sex 14 days after my period.
This is one of the biggest misconceptions. Unless you have a perfect, consistent, 28-day cycle (which is not the norm for most women), you're not always most fertile
on day 14. The old "calendar" method of birth control was based on the false assumption that women ovulate on day 14. This is simply not true for most women, and only tracking your fertility signs
will help you determine when your ovulation period is.
Myth 8: My partner and I don't have to do anything different sexually to conceive.
Well, you don't have to change the basics of sex, but it will help to refrain from using lubricants of any kind, and you also shouldn't have any kind of oral sex. Lubricants and saliva can kill sperm. And some say certain sexual positions
work better for them than others.
Myth 9: Fertility problems are very rare.
According to the Arizona Center for Fertility Studies, one out of six couples has trouble conceiving. Infertility is often a painful issue that many couples won't bring up, and because many suffer in silence, you may not have realized that many couples you talk to may have had (or are still having) problems conceiving.
Myth 10: I conceived my first baby easily, so the next pregnancies should be easy to achieve.
While getting pregnant in the past should give you some comfort, it should never give you false security. Many couples have trouble conceiving another child. The diagnosis is called
secondary infertility. And while in 1995 the number of people suffering from secondary infertility was estimated at 1.8 million, the 2006 statistics claim that there are 3.3 million people who have trouble conceiving a second child.