Admittedly, aside from my fellow Babble blogger and new friend, I never knew anyone who had a miscarriage. Or so I thought. It wasn’t until after I miscarried my twins at 17 weeks that I began to hear from family members and old friends who had also suffered this awful loss. I began to think about how infrequently we, as a culture, speak about miscarriage.
Personally, I couldn’t imagine remaining silent about this (with or without my blog). Sure, I know everyone handles loss differently, and I am certainly not judging those who don’t speak about it. But my heart breaks for the women who feel as though they can’t speak about it because our culture has made the topic taboo, and our cultural silence surrounding miscarriage somehow implies shame or fault. That, I am not okay with.
While I don’t wish for anyone to experience what it’s like firsthand, I do think it’s critically important to talk about miscarriage – and to share what we know and have learned from our own experiences with others. Heck, I was a miscarriage ignoramus before December 22.
I wish I didn’t know this stuff because of my own loss. I wish I hadn’t learned these terms because of my own loss. But now that I do know this stuff, now that I have learned these terms, I want others to know about this should they ever find themselves in the utmost unfortunate and tragic situation of losing a baby in the second trimester — or ever, really.
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