10 Things You Should Never Say to a First-time Pregnant Mom-to-be

I can still remember the first time I was pregnant — worried, unsure but crazy happy. I had so many questions, read more then a handful of books and listened to all the advice from everyone and anyone.

I hadn’t yet learned to take that advice with a grain of salt and rely more on my intuition and instinct. I was hearing birth stories from friends, outdated advice from older women and I quickly became overwhelmed. People love to chime in with their advice, even when you don’t really want to hear it. I take that as people just being excited for you and want to help out — or try to at least.

What I learned is there are a few things you should just not say to a first time pregnant mama. She may not be listening to her instinct and may take your advice or words a bit too seriously — with all the myths and horror stories out there, can you blame her?

Click through to find out what 10 things you should never say to a first-time mom-to-be:

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  • “My birth lasted 36 hours and it was horrible” 1 of 10
    "My birth lasted 36 hours and it was horrible"
    Why: First time pregnant women are already a bit scared so they don't need to hear the extreme birth stories.
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  • “I will NEVER do that again” 2 of 10
    "I will NEVER do that again"
    Why: If your birth scared you off from ever having more kids now is probably not to tell a first time pregnant mama.
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  • “Just wait until you are 9 months pregnant” 3 of 10
    "Just wait until you are 9 months pregnant"
    Why: If a woman is already having a rough go and feeling huge, you don't need to remind her she's going to get bigger.
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  • “Never get an induction, it’s so painful” 4 of 10
    "Never get an induction, it's so painful"
    Why: While in an ideal birth you may not wish to have any medical interventions, scaring a first time mom may make her even more stressed.
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  • “My vagina will never be the same” 5 of 10
    "My vagina will never be the same"
    Why: Fear mongering. You should tell her to do her kegels now.
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  • “Don’t gain too much, it’s impossible to lose!” 6 of 10
    "Don't gain too much, it's impossible to lose!"
    Why: She is likely already concerned over weight and her focus should be on healthy, not fear for later.
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  • “You look bigger than I did” 7 of 10
    "You look bigger than I did"
    Why: Every woman looks different in pregnancy and comparing to a first-time mom-to-be can leave her feeling worried.
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  • “Is that healthy for your baby?” 8 of 10
    "Is that healthy for your baby?"
    Why: A first-time mom-to-be may not be inclined to listen to her own body and take advice with a grain of salt.
    Photo Credit: photostock
  • “Pregnancy totally ruined my body” 9 of 10
    "Pregnancy totally ruined my body"
    Why: Now is not the time to get a first-time mom-to-be worried about her postpartum body.
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  • “Have you felt the baby kick yet?” 10 of 10
    "Have you felt the baby kick yet?"
    Why: People love to ask this really early and for a first-time mom-to-be this may leave her unnecessarily worried.
    Photo Credit: photostock

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