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10 Things You Should Never Say to a First-time Pregnant Mom-to-be

By Devan McGuinness |

I can still remember the first time I was pregnant — worried, unsure but crazy happy. I had so many questions, read more then a handful of books and listened to all the advice from everyone and anyone.

I hadn’t yet learned to take that advice with a grain of salt and rely more on my intuition and instinct. I was hearing birth stories from friends, outdated advice from older women and I quickly became overwhelmed. People love to chime in with their advice, even when you don’t really want to hear it. I take that as people just being excited for you and want to help out — or try to at least.

What I learned is there are a few things you should just not say to a first time pregnant mama. She may not be listening to her instinct and may take your advice or words a bit too seriously — with all the myths and horror stories out there, can you blame her?

Click through to find out what 10 things you should never say to a first-time mom-to-be:

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What Not to Say to First-Time Pregnant Mom

"My birth lasted 36 hours and it was horrible"

Why: First time pregnant women are already a bit scared so they don't need to hear the extreme birth stories.
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Devan McGuinness

Devan McGuinness is the writer of the lifestyle blog Accustomed Chaos. After surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan founded Unspoken Grief, a resource and support site for perinatal and neonatal loss. Read bio and latest posts → Read Devan's latest posts →

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8 thoughts on “10 Things You Should Never Say to a First-time Pregnant Mom-to-be

  1. Jacqueline D says:

    I Had a family member who when I was pregnant told me every horror story she knew. The tear duct surgery of her daughter, the tearing of vajayjays, oh and the woman who’s nipple got tore off by her nursing baby… Lol!!

  2. Jen says:

    I am 7 months along, totally healthy and normal size, but am constantly being asked, “are you sure it’s not twins?” People are so rude!

  3. Devon says:

    Can we double check our grammar, Babble writers? “You look bigger THAN I did” Come on, now.

  4. Nicole says:

    I wish more folks told me about the recovery once baby is born and that you can start your period even when you are ebf. Those were unpleasent srprises i wish i was prepared for. Most of those listed are so unhelpful! Instead discuss things that will help the mama not scare her!

  5. first time mother says:

    a warning i got was when a friend told me that strangers will try to touch your belly….then the first time i had some one i never met come touch me while i was working at walmart, i slapped upside the head and shouted pervert my manager wasn’t to happy that i slapped a costumer but let it drop asking that i try not to do that again.

  6. Lee1973 says:

    Yes, please check grammar AND spelling. As far as I know, it’s Kegels not Kegals. Right?

  7. heather says:

    where are the things you dont say? i dont see them…

  8. sadie says:

    this is to the person who commented saying she slapped a customer for touching her pregnant belly. i’m really surprised you didn’t get fired. i would have fired you. all you would’ve had to do was say ‘please don’t touch me it makes me uncomfortable’ or even ‘please take your hands off me.’ but to slap someone without warning? at your job none the less? how unprofessional. i know people are nosy and have some weird obsession with pregnancy, but that doesn’t give you the right to hit someone. i’m surprised the person didn’t press charges! you assaulted someone you crazy bitch. over an innocent, yet kind of creepy, thing. you should count your blessings you weren’t fired and sued, and DEFINITELY work on your anger issues before your child is born. you wouldn’t want your bad manners, crazy temper, and hostility rubbing off on them.

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