From pressure to fitting in, many people can convince themselves that a child will fix whatever seems to be wrong. When in reality, you’ll need to fix it as best you can before you bring a child, with it’s own needs, into your family.
Feeling some of these emotions briefly or part of the time is completely normal. Everyone is different; no one will have a perfect marriage or get it all together before the adoption is finalized. But if you’re finding any of the reasons below as your sole purpose in considering adoption, you need to rethink our decision. Slow down, talk it over with your spouse, find a counselor or social worker, and really ponder why it is you want to adopt. You owe that to yourself and the son or daughter who may be waiting for you.
A child should never be a therapist, a savior, or a catch all for your emotional needs. Click through to see things that should never be the only reason (or even one of the reasons) to consider adoption.
Diana blogs on raising a toddler daughter, the loss of her twin boys, and their families’ Korean adoption on the aptly named Hormonal Imbalances. Smaller glimpses into her day are on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest.
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