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14 Things I Miss About Pregnancy

By ceridwen |

I will not be having any more children. The last time I saw the two pink lines of a pregnancy test was almost four years ago.

And there are things I don’t miss. I don’t miss the alarmist headlines and incessant, ever-growing list of ‘things to worry about.’ I don’t miss heartburn or vomiting or sciatica. I don’t miss that smell… what was that smell??  And the prenatal testing. That, I really don’t miss.

But I’ve just had a really crappy week. I’ve been asking myself hard questions about life and doing a ton of fairly unrewarding, busy work.

And as I sit here feeling sorry for myself, staring at the blank screen of my pregnancy blog, I’ve find myself overtaken with pregnancy nostalgia. So indulge me as I remember what I loved most about this time.

    1. I miss always doing something even when I wasn’t doing anything at all.
    2. I miss going to a movie, getting totally caught up in it and then, when leaving, remembering Oh, I’m pregnant.
    3. I miss passing out at 8pm on the couch.
    4. I miss thinking that what was growing inside of me was literally made out of me and the person I loved.
    5. I miss realizing that, yes, it is worth walking fifteen blocks for that falafal.
    6. I miss swimming pregnant. (Mothers should be routinely placed in large bodies of water–they do a lot of carrying and it’s nice to let the water carry *you* once in a while.)
    7. I miss my check-ups. No one has asked me how I’m feeling in, like, years.
    8. I miss going out to dinner with my husband and taking little sips of his wine and listening to his jokes about what we should name the baby, “Julius And Ethyl Rosenberg Lipsyte” (one name) was his favorite for a while.
    9. I miss having my focus turned slightly away from the navel-gazing of previous decades.
    10. I miss the excitement of suddenly having a new identity to grow into.
    11. I miss accidentally exposing my 9.5 month naked belly to James Gandolfini in a pizza parlor (some problems with sweater-removal) and getting a huge smile and wink out of him. He made me feel, in some twisted way, that my little baby girl would be just fine.
    12. I miss the kicks.
    13. I miss holding my belly  and always knowing I wasn’t entirely alone.
    14. I miss my hair.

    OK. Time to get back to my life where I am not entirely alone and where my hair appears to be quite thick and lovely, if not soap-opera wavy and long like it was. I will go to the pool tomorrow and let myself float and think about all of these things. Carrying your children never really ends, even if pregnancy does.

    Photo: Arwen Abendstern/Flickr

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Ceridwen Morris is a writer, mother, and certified childbirth educator. She is the author of several books and screenplays, including (Three Rivers; 2007). She serves on the board of The Childbirth Education Association of Metropolitan New York and teaches at Tribeca Parenting in New York City. Read bio and latest posts → Read Ceridwen's latest posts →

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0 thoughts on “14 Things I Miss About Pregnancy

  1. MonicaBielanko says:

    I can’t imagine a time when I’ll miss being pregnant, but it was nice to read this. Also, I LOVE James Gandolfini and that story made my day. My husband and I spotted him once on the Lower East Side near the Williamsburg Bridge driving a giant pick-up truck (the type we now see here in Utah every day). We were excited about our Gandolfini sighting for days.

  2. Siobhan says:

    I’m betting you don’t miss week 39, which is where I happen to be currently. Get out baby! To be fair this likely won’t be my last, though… maybe on the next I’ll be a bit more sentimental.

  3. LBD says:

    Ohhhh – I miss my hair, too. It was so long and shiny! And I loved, loved, loved the kicks. <3

  4. Morgan {The818} says:

    Nope…can’t really think of a single thing. Wait. Cutting in line in public restrooms. I miss that.

  5. Christina Mastin says:

    As much as I complain about the current discomfort I know I will miss it. ’till next time, we want one more.

  6. Jodi Watson says:

    *Sigh* I hated being pregnant, but I too really enjoyed your list. We’re done too after two, and when I hear of my friends’ third pregnancies I get a little nauseous, but I will also miss the kicks and the never being alone.

  7. betty says:

    Just talked about this the other day! I’m at week 39.5 and, if I could easily tie my shoes, I’d be happy to stay pg a bit longer. The wriggling little body and the taut belly- just two things I’ll really miss.

  8. Shalene says:

    I know what you mean. I miss the kicks sooo much and the belly. I loved my belly. I loved feeling so healthy, shiny hair, shiny nails, and my hair was so long. I did great in school when I was pregnant too, I was so much more attentive. I want another baby but not anytime soon.

  9. 2 Under 2 says:

    Cutting in line at the ladies’ room is a good one… people actually saying “excuse me” when passing you is another one! I LOVED every moment of being pregnant. If I could be about 5-6 months pregnant w/o having another child to take care of right now I’d be elated :)

  10. blondie says:

    We have likely had our final baby as well. I loved being pregnant both times, especially as I had several losses and our second took 4.5 years to conceive. I tried not to take any moment of it for granted and didn’t wish it to hurry up…I actually tried to slow down those last weeks! (sadly, it didn’t work…DS is 7 months old today!) I don’t want to go through the horrors of infertility again, but it was worth every awful month! I loved every day of every week of every month of pregnancy! Yes, I even loved week 39 as well as 40 and 41 and would have loved and enjoyed 42+ if I had carried longer (both of mine were born 9 days after my edd). I loved pregnancy and childbirth and would happily do both again and again if we could afford to!

  11. Jessica says:

    I clicked on this link and expected to roll my eyes at everything since I am 31 weeks pregnant and hating it. But I really liked this. Thanks!

  12. noha says:

    Loved ur article:) that was inspirational:)))

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