My first pregnancy was no where near a walk in the park. I suffered from seven months of morning sickness and was hospitalized for kidney stones. After going through that, I figured any pregnancy after would be a breeze.
I considered myself a veteran, having gone through a pregnancy before and was definitely over confident. I think my body is laughing at that over-confidence now, because being pregnant hasn’t made the second pregnancy any easier.
In fact, second pregnancy is a lot different than the first and I’ve come up with a list of five reasons why.
1. No more giving into pregnancy side-effects. When I was pregnant with no children, I had time to deal and give in to my pregnancy side effects. When I was beyond tired in my first trimester, I would immediately come home from work, lay on the couch and fall asleep. If dinner wasn’t cooked by the time my husband got home from work, so be it, we ordered in. When I couldn’t get out of bed from the morning sickness, I stayed in bed and called into work. Chicken noodle soup and Lifetime movies were the perfect cure for the ever zealous nausea.
With pregnancy number two, the side effects are put aside and ignored as I run after and deal with an attention-seeking two year old. If morning sickness has me bedridden, Harlan is right next to me watching Nick Jr. (no Lifetime TV for me anymore.) The crackers that calmed my stomach before are now being eaten my both me and Harlan with crumbs all over the bed. When I have to make a trip to the bathroom to give into the morning sickness (if you know what I mean), Harlan is right next to me relentlessly asking me if I am ok. She’s even managed to mimic the gagging sound that I make when I’m feeling sick. Precious, right?
Oh yeah, and naps? They only happen when Harlan takes one, and are never on demand as they were before.
2. Staying fit during pregnancy has gone from going to the gym to running after a toddler. I used to frequent the gym everyday when I was pregnant with Harlan. I was in the best shape of my life when I got pregnant with her and I vowed to not let that stop during pregnancy. I remember the looks I used to get at the gym as I did walking lunges down the hallway with my bulging belly. The working out paid off during labor and made it super easy (something I pray the second is like as well.)
With Harlan in school three days a week and having play groups on the others, her schedule is my schedule. Finding time for the gym has been like finding a needle in a haystack; I just can’t seem to find it. I somehow am managing to keep my pregnancy weight under control so far and I am convinced it is because I am always on my feet and running after Harlan. Who’s needs the gym when you have a toddler?
3. Pregnancy, what pregnancy? There are so many times that I forget that I am pregnant. We haven’t picked out a name, bought one single clothing or baby item, and don’t talk about baby number two quite as often as we did baby number one. With our lives constantly revolving around Harlan, my pregnancy is sometimes put on the back burner and we just keep going through the motions. Only recently, after Harlan is tucked in bed and fast asleep have we started talking more about the little bun in the oven. I’ve even began to feel her kick more so now I can really get my husband and Harlan more involved because they can feel it too.
4. My body is not the way it used to be. As I mentioned, I was in the best shape of my life when I got pregnant with Harlan. Having a baby definitely changes your body and my body is no where used to the way it was before children. I was in shape when I found out I was pregnant with this little girl, but I’ve found my body isn’t quite as forgiving as it was with the first.
My back aches more, nasty varicose veins have started to pop up out of no where on my legs, the heaviness of my stomach has made standing up for long periods of time nearly impossible. I’m not feeling quite as glamourous as I did with my first.
5. Having a “sidekick” to share your pregnancy with is the best in the world. With my first pregnancy I only had my husband and family to share my milestones with. Now I am sharing this journey with the best “sidekick” in the world, my daughter. It is the most incredible feeling to be able to share this with her. Us being open and honest throughout the pregnancy has her asking questions, forming a bond with her sister already, and has made our relationship stronger than ever.
Although my second pregnancy hasn’t been quite as easy as the first, I wouldn’t change it for anything.
How was your second pregnancy different?
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