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5 Signs My Wife's OBGYN is into Her and 5 Reasons Why I'm Good With It

By John Cave Osborne |

Oh my. What a warm, soft tummy you have.

I may look dumb. But that’s just because I’m often confused. And confusion, my friends, should never be mistaken for stupidity. Unless, of course, the confusion is over something easily understandable. Like simple math. But if the confusion stems from something genuinely befuddling? Like, say, the contemplation of the obvious crush my wife’s OBGYN has on her? Now, that’s a different story.

I know what you’re thinking. I’m overreacting, right? Surely my wife’s OBGYN views her just like any other patient. Nope. I’m quite certain that he’s got a little somethin’-somethin’ for my wife. And here 5 reasons why I’m so sure.

  • 1. He Never Addresses Me: Not talking holiday cards here, folks. Addressing as in speaks. He never speaks to me. Nor does he ever make eye contact. Even if I ask him a question, he answers while looking directly at my wife, as if she’s the one who asked him. Excuse, me, Doc? Could you at least pretend like you know I’m here?
  • 2. He Gave Her His Contact Info: No big deal, right? Right. No big deal at all. Um, except that in all that info he doled out, he included his home number. Dude. Why don’t you just go ahead and ask her what her sign is?
  • 3. All The Touching: Caroline’s last pregnancy spawned the summer months. And he often touched her legs while reminding her of the importance of sunscreen. Wait. Are we on the wrong floor? Because we need an OBGYN, not a dermatologist. At one point last pregnancy, we learned that our baby girl wasn’t gaining anywhere near as much weight as our boys were. “Why is this happening?” Caroline had asked. “Not all parts of the placenta are created equally,” he answered as he gently rubbed my wife’s calf. Wait, the placenta’s not in the leg, is it? “You see,” he continued, “your daughter is not getting the same amount of nourishment that your sons are.” Will rubbing Caroline’s shapely leg fix that?
  • 4. All the Compliments: This guy is a compliment machine. He squeezes more in a 30-minute consultation than I do in a week. Many of them pertain to how lovely he finds my wife to be. I heard your wife’s hot, too, Doc. Too bad she’s too old for me.
  • 5. Invasion of Personal Space: Caroline’s OBGYN is not afraid to get all up in her grill when asking her how she’s doing. Talk about a cologne check. His stare locks into hers a little longer than I might expect. Helloooo. Still right here, Doc.

Here’s the kicker though. Not only am I aware that Caroline’s OBGYN is into her, I’m absolutely 100% good with it. Here are 5 reasons why.

  • 1. He’s Never Crossed the Line: There are two things of which I’m 100% certain. First, Caroline’s OBGYN does, indeed, fancy her. But second, it’s more in the way of how a teacher would fancy a favorite student. My tongue-in-cheek jokes are just that. Jokes. He’s never once crossed any type of line. At all.
  • 2. He’s Doing His Job: You know what every great OBGYN does for his or her patients? Provide them with confidence. Make them feel better mentally, even if they don’t feel so great physically. So when Doc rattles off a compliment about her looks — good for him. Every pregnant woman should hear that she looks beautiful far more often. Because every pregnant woman is just that.
  • 3. We’ve Been Through A Lot With This Guy: You’ve no doubt noted that this isn’t our first time with this particular doctor. As such, any affinity he feels toward Caroline is well founded. The triplet pregnancy was a very difficult one. She was on bed rest for the final 9 weeks. Five of them were in the hospital. If he treats her intimately, it’s because they are intimate. And through that intimacy, genuine affection has developed. Both have served her (and our entire family) quite well.
  • 4. Favoritism Encouraged: I don’t know about you, but I’m aware that I’m getting good service from someone whenever he or she makes me feel special. Doc does just that with Caroline, and as a result, we know we’re more than just a name on the chart to him. He’s proven it time and time again. And we’re incredibly thankful for that.
  • 5. He’s Part of Our Family: Do you know what the first thing Doc did when he saw us during our initial appointment a few weeks ago? He hugged Caroline. The second thing? He hugged me. Doc ushered us through one of the most complicated 36-week mazes our lives have ever known. And at the end of it came three healthy, beautiful and miraculous bundles of joy. When we found out we were expecting yet another child, Caroline was relieved to know that Doc would once again take us under his wing. I was, too. He’s like family to us. Caroline loves him. And I do, too.

What about you? Do you have a good relationship with your OBGYN? Wouldn’t you agree that a strong bond between doctor and patient during pregnancy is critical?

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John Cave Osborne is a writer whose work has appeared on such sites as Babble, TLC, YahooShine, and the Huffington Post. John went from carefree bachelor to father of four in just 13 months after marrying a single mom, then quickly conceived triplets. Since then, they have added one more to the mix, a little boy they named Grand Finale. Read bio and latest posts → Read John's latest posts →

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12 thoughts on “5 Signs My Wife's OBGYN is into Her and 5 Reasons Why I'm Good With It

  1. DC Urban Dad says:

    Maybe he is really into you?

  2. Momo Fali says:

    I have a great relationship with mine, but if she starts looking for placentas in my leg then we’re going to have some issues to deal with.

  3. Juli says:

    Well, at least YOU also got a hug the second time around.

  4. Maryellen says:

    You slay me.

  5. Megan says:

    My husband has the same fears! I never had a male lady doctor until we decided to get pregnant. I think now that we’ve been to see him a few times, my hubby is more comfortable, but I thought he was going to fall out of the chair at my first ultrasound. Since my pregnancy has been going so well, we decided to transfer to the local birthing center. My doc’s wife is going to be my midwife now, and even though my OBGYN has been great, my husband seems pretty relieved.

  6. nancy says:

    I’m a healthcare provider and I can certainly agree that I have favorites. Trust me, it sounds like you just have a great doc. They can be hard to come by – glad you have such a great attitude about it.

  7. Annette Winston says:

    Watch it with the old jokes, young man! ; – )

  8. Alicia says:

    Sorry to sound nit picky, but is it supposed to be “spanned” the summer months instead of “spawned”? That makes me smile thinking of your wife as a goddess who gave birth to summer. :)

    1. johncaveosborne says:

      @Alicia — would you buy the intentional freudian double entendre?
      @Annetter — i did NOT call you old, mind you.
      @nancy — we are, indeed, aware that “Doc” is a good one. we genuinely love him.
      @Megan — HA! we’re considered high risk b/c of C’s age, so we’ll have no such handoff, but how great would it be if we got handed off to Doc’s wife?
      @Maryellen — you’re pretty priceless your damn self.
      @Juli — certainly one good perk. i think.
      @Momo Fali — it’s ALWAYS a good day whenever i hear from Momo Fali. and, yes. trying to find the placenta via the leg is problematic, indeed.
      @DC Urban Dad — hmmm. i wonder if you’re on to something?!

  9. Modest Woman says:

    This is very strange. I don’t think that male gynecologists are appropriate. Do you really feel comfortable with a male gynecologist examining the private parts of your wife? Don’t you think that you should be the only man in the world to examine and touch your wife’s private parts? It sounds like the male gynecologist enjoys examining your wife’s private parts. You should reconsider and encourage her to find a female gynecologist.

    Look at how it made one husband upset when his wife went to a male gynecologist at http://patientmodesty.org/modestycomments.aspx?ID=2.

    You should look at the tips for women on how to prevent sexual misconduct by doctors at http://sexualmisconductbydoctors.com/femaletips.aspx.

    1. johncaveosborne says:

      @Modest Woman — my wife and i are madly in love with each other. i’m not threatened by any other man on the planet, much less the wonderful and skilled OB GYN who has meant so much to us both. as i said in the post, itself — my tongue-in-cheek jokes are just that. jokes. the guy is a champ and one of the best OB GYNs on the planet. to me, your comment is off base. that said, i appreciate you leaving it.

  10. Otter says:

    I was so uncomfortable when we first visited my wife’s OBGYN during the first pregnancy. The reasons for my discomfort are obvious. But I can honestly say that this guy is my favortie doctor of all time. I love him. And I am so glad that we have him to help us through this twin pregnancy.

    Early in our relationship he told my wife she had a nice pelvis. I thought it was hilarious. He came back an apologized becasue he didn’t mean to be unprofessional, but we hadn’t thought anything of it.

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