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6 Mistakes First-time Moms Make Before the Baby Arrives

By ilanawiles |

First-time moms are entitled to make a lot of mistakes. Having a baby is a learning process. But some mistakes are easy to avoid. Especially if you take the advice of a mom currently pregnant with her second child who is determined not to repeat them.

Here are 6 mistakes many first-time moms make — I made at least three of them.

1) Buying tons of newborn clothes.

There are three reasons this is a mistake. 1) A lot of newborns never fit into newborn clothes or only do for a couple of weeks. 2) Newborn clothes are basically pajamas with a lot of snaps on the crotch and aren’t that exciting. 3) Friends and family are going to buy you more newborn clothes than you know what to do with them. Save your money for 6-9 month outfits when the options get way more fun.

2) Spending a fortune on a fancy bassinet.

We made this mistake. We bought an organic modern wood bassinet that would look beautiful in our bedroom. We used it for three months, took it apart and stuck it in storage. Now that the new baby is coming, we pulled it back out and can’t find a leg.

3) Thinking you need to buy everything before the baby is born.

I’m Jewish. We believe that you shouldn’t buy things until AFTER the baby is born— a very literal, “Don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched.” Morbid, I know. I’m not trying to change your outlook or get you to convert. I’m just saying that if I can bring a baby home to literally NOTHING in the nursery, then you don’t have to make sure every nook and cranny is fully outfitted 3 months before the baby arrives. You’ll have plenty of time to purchase stuff online when that newborn is napping.

4) Getting a wipes warmer.

Yes, a wipes warmer is an unnecessary indulgence. It is also the beginning of a horrible horrible first mom mistake. Let’s say your baby gets used to the warmth of a wipe whenever her diaper is changed. Then, let’s say, you find yourself in a scenario where you have to change your baby’s diaper out of your home, where warmed wipes are not an option. Then imagine that baby screeching at ear-piercing levels because she has never been shocked by a cold wipe on her bare bottom. Don’t invent an issue where none exists.

5) Not being familiar with all the characters in popular young adult fiction.

You may think you have the most original name in the world. Then you show up to your first day of ‘Mommy & Me’ and ten babies are sporting the same name. What happened??? You’ve accidentally named your baby after a main character from The Hunger Games.

6) Not taking advantage of sleep and free time pre-baby.

This is a tough one, I know. You are excited. You are stressed. You are uncomfortable. Sleep may not be easy to come by. But please, please, please, relax as much as you can. See every movie in the theater. Go to dinner with your spouse. Make time for your girl friends. I promise, you will wish you did more than paint your nursery and research epidurals online once the baby arrives.

Now, please. Get off Pinterest this weekend and go see a movie. Oh, how I miss movies…

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Ilana Wiles writes Mommy Shorts, a humor blog geared towards new parents. She is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Blogs and one of The Huffington Post's top 20 women to follow on Instagram. She lives in NYC with her husband, 2-year-old daughter and a newborn baby girl. Read bio and latest posts → Read ilanawiles's latest posts →

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14 thoughts on “6 Mistakes First-time Moms Make Before the Baby Arrives

  1. Mary says:

    Totally disagree with not buying stuff before baby is born…one only has time to shop online after baby is born if the baby will sleep without being carried around! Which was not my experience at all. Also, I was completely exhausted most of the time once baby was born (and not sleeping), so shopping just was a nightmare. Next time around, I am going to be sure to have all of my shopping done beforehand!!

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  5. Ann says:

    I don’t believe in wipe warmers. The baby will have to take the wipe as is and get used to the cold or room tempered wipe!

  6. Lisa says:

    While I see where u are coming from with the wipe warmer, it was a night time game changer for both my kids. I only used it during night time diaper changes, and bc it wasn’t something harsh and cold on their booty, they started to sleep right through the diaper change. Which meant a lot more sleep for me!!! ( both kids started to sleep through the night before 4 months) totally worth it!

  7. Kate says:

    I am so happy we have a wipe warmer. Where are you spending time that your wipes are so cold that your baby would scream from their touch? My baby gets a wipe warmer at home and room temp everywhere else. She manages just fine.

  8. Danielle Fouts says:

    I buy plenty before the baby is born because I shop at thrift stores – we find tons of new items for $0.25-2.00 and I have spent less on my sons 16 months worth of clothing than most people do for newborn – 3 months. I shop ahead of time because a lot of things can be used no matter what the season and if you can save money, why not?! We did buy more newborn sized items than we were able to use for our son but we still spent less than most people would on just a few outfits, so not a big deal – we will make back the money at a yard sale anyways.

  9. Erica says:

    Good article but I disagree BIG TIME about the wipe warmer!!! I have 3 children and have had the warmer for all 3 and have also used cold wipes on them too! And never once have they cried because the wipes are cold…I think the warm wipes work wonderfully when they have soiled their diaper and you don’t know it at first (because my children have pooped and it NEVER smelled sometimes) and its a little stuck to their behind, with the warm wipes I didn’t have to scrub as much on their sensitive skin!! Yes it’s something you can most certainly live without but in my opinion it’s a GREAT investment! :)

  10. lincolns mom says:

    And don’t waste all your money on all the fitted sheets and pillow pads…just get a pack and play…it lasts and moveable…u get a toddler bed at age 2 anyway

  11. AGW says:

    For the first of our three girls, everything was new. THEN-I discovered the consignment shops/sales. Lots of the clothes for young babies are still new at the sales or very gently worn. I think the point of not buying lots of stuff before the baby was born was to buy enough, but don’t get sucked into every cute outfit you see. Because they are all so cute and tiny!! Have enough to get through the first few weeks of survival mode, and then see what you need.

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  13. Sommer says:

    Generally good advice but I somewhat agree with not buying much newborn stuff. None of our friends or family bought ANY for our second child, a son (we had a girl first and had virtually no non-pink items), and if I hadn’t bought any he would not have had clothes for a few weeks. Also I completely disagree with not purchasing everything before the baby is born. For me, with both of my children I bought as much as possible of what would be needed and actually used (and not swayed much just by the cuteness of an outfit but its practicality) rather than wait until after they were born. Who wants to take a newborn baby out shopping, or miss out on precious sleep time during their nap to buy stuff you could have bought before they arrived? Not me.

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