6 Reasons I Talk About Miscarriage Even If You're Tired of Hearing About It

6 Reasons I Talk About MiscarriageThere are days where I still feel quite sad. Trigger days like due dates, “birth” dates and new babies. There are days where I don’t think too much of it and feel like I am “healed” and done with grief. There are weeks where both are true and I have come to realize that it’s all a healthy expression of grief. A new normal I live with and I have learned many valuable lessons about love, life, compassion and how to support.

There have been a few times since I started actively talking about perinatal grief where I have been asked why I keep talking about it. Well-meaning people who wonder why I talk about something so personal, something many people choose to keep to themselves and don’t see the benefits of doing so — for myself and others.

I have many reasons why I still talk about miscarriage — personal reasons and a desire to support others. While the pain is not as raw as it once was, this is always going to be a part of me and there are days where that pain can feel just as raw as the initial moments. I believe in ongoing conversations and I don’t believe in taboo subjects — especially where miscarriage is concerned.

Click through and see 6 reasons I talk about miscarriage & why I think it’s important to do so:

  • It Helps Me Honor 1 of 6
    It Helps Me Honor
    Talking about my losses helps me honor their short life. It means a lot to me to have people know Triton's name and gives me space to acknowledge their presence.
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  • It Helps Me Feel Less Alone 2 of 6
    It Helps Me Feel Less Alone
    When I talk about miscarriage, I get so many notes of support, people who tell me they have felt what I have too and tell me the stories of their children. Feeling isolated is never healthy and talking about it helps me feel less alone.
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  • It Increases Sensitivity 3 of 6
    It Increases Sensitivity
    Talking about miscarriage to a wide audience or even one person, I have the opportunity to increase sensitivity to those who may not have experienced it.
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  • It Builds a Community 4 of 6
    It Builds a Community
    A community full of support and understanding is so important when it comes to something like miscarriage. It helps us all feel less alone, normalizes a lot of things we may be feeling and we can all hold each other up. It's really amazing the difference a community has when you're grieving.
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  • It Can Make a Difference 5 of 6
    It Can Make a Difference
    It makes a difference to me, can make a difference in the way a nurse or doctor comforts and supports a woman going through it. It can help someone who has been told to get over it that it is okay to talk, to cry and to feel.
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  • Grief is Ongoing 6 of 6
    Grief is Ongoing
    Grief doesn't stop at anyone's timetable. Grief is an ongoing journey and there are days where I don't think too much about it and there are days where my heart is raw. I write and talk about it when I need to and it's a healthy way to express grief.
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For support and resources on perinatal grief, miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss — visit

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