7 Tips for Managing Pregnancy After Loss

We are getting really close to closing the deal on another child to our family. Though I very much want to become pregnant again, naturally I have some pretty big fears going forward. Having been through so much loss already, even when/if I make it past my historical danger-of-losing zone, pregnancy after loss is not easy.

The innocence of not worrying about every little thing, your mind didn’t float over to the ‘what-if’s’ as much — but worry and what-if’s are a huge part of pregnancy after loss. It opens a big floodgate of new stresses, anxieties and often there really isn’t any answers to what ‘went wrong’ before and we feel even more helpless and not in control.

There are a few things you can do to help manage the stresses and anxieties of pregnancy after loss. Some things to consider and have in place before or early into your pregnancy that may help the already stressful months go a bit smoother.

Click through for 7 tips to manage pregnancy after loss:

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  • Prepare Before If You Can 1 of 7
    Prepare Before If You Can
    Ideally, if you can plan for your next pregnancy after loss that would be best. Get as many lingering questions answered, talk to your doctors and care providers about what to expect next time and if needed, get a plan set out before.
    Photo credit: modified from Wolfgang Lonien on Flickr
  • Find a Good Care Provider 2 of 7
    Find a Good Care Provider
    Pregnancy after loss brings a lot of anxieties and fears that you may not have without going through loss. Finding a care provider who is understanding to those needs and takes extra time with you is important.
    Photo credit: modified from allison.hare on Flickr
  • Talk To a Therapist 3 of 7
    Talk To a Therapist
    Finding someone to talk to who can help balance and ease your fears and anxieties will help a lot. It can be a therapist, your pastor, a good friend who's been through it -- someone to talk to openly.
    Photo credit: modified from Wolfgang Lonien on Flickr
  • Take Things Day-by-Day 4 of 7
    Take Things Day-by-Day
    For those pregnant again after loss, there is usually this date circled on the calendar. Not the due date, but the date your last loss occurred. Take things day-by-day and do all you can to ease your stress. Focus on today and not the overall anxiety-inducing big picture.
    Photo credit: modified from Wolfgang Lonien on Flickr
  • Be Kind and Gentle to You 5 of 7
    Be Kind and Gentle to You
    Don't beat yourself up. You have enough stress going on as it is, so remember to be gentle to yourself, be patient with you and pamper yourself.
    Photo credit: modified from Wolfgang Lonien on Flickr
  • Find a Support Group 6 of 7
    Find a Support Group
    Either online or in your community, find a support group for those who are pregnant again after loss. Talking about unique fears and stresses that come with pregnancy after loss can help ease the burden.
    Photo credit: modified from dctim1 on Flickr
  • Celebrate Every Moment 7 of 7
    Celebrate Every Moment
    It's hard to do this one, but so important. Try to celebrate every day because the pain won't be any worse if things go downhill. It will help you feel more connected and maybe bring down some anxiety.
    Photo credit: modified from oatsy40 on Flickr

:: What advice do you have for someone pregnant after loss?  ::

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