9 Things I Would Do Differently In Pregnancy and Birth If I Could Go Back

While I sit here in the 2 week wait and over the past year and a bit trying to conceive, I have had a lot of time to think about what pregnancy and birth will be like again.

I enjoyed being pregnant. I enjoyed the labor process, and birth was pretty okay too, but there is a big difference between my first and last when I think about it. I knew so much more and trusted the process a lot more (and myself) by the time I was pregnant with my third child than I was with my first child. It’s funny how hindsight can give us a lot of information, but it’s also kind of mean because then I wonder — if only I knew then.

I know I can’t change anything, and I really did learn a lot and things turned out okay, but if I could go back in time and change a few things about pregnancy, labor, birth and life with a new baby — I would.  Click through and read the 9 things I would go back and do differently if I could:

  • Things I Would Do Differently 1 of 10
    Things I Would Do Differently
    I've been through pregnancy and birth a handful of times now and if I could go back and tell myself a few tips during my first pregnancy, I think it would have been an easier transition.
  • Photo Proof 2 of 10
    Photo Proof
    I felt huge and not at all pretty, so I avoided the camera. I only have one picture of myself pregnant with my first child and if I could, I would go back and take more pictures.
  • Birth Plan 3 of 10
    Birth Plan
    I didn't really take control of my first birth and for that, it was my most difficult one. If I could go back, I would put in writing what I wanted, didn't want just as I did for my last pregnancy.
  • Exercise 4 of 10
    I was afraid during my first pregnancy after having so many miscarriages, exercise seemed dangerous. If I could go back, I would talk more with my doctor and get the OK. Exercise can make a huge difference is how your body "bounces" back after birth.
  • Accepted Myself 5 of 10
    Accepted Myself
    I was so hard on myself during my first pregnancy. I had no idea what to expect and thought I was the biggest pregnant woman ever. If I could go back, I would look at my changing shape with much more care and support.
  • Care For Myself 6 of 10
    Care For Myself
    I had this idea after the birth of my first child that I needed to put all his needs first. That left very little time for me and it wore on me quickly. If I could go back, I would schedule some alone time -- even if only for 30 minutes.
  • Yes, Please 7 of 10
    Yes, Please
    I had this mindset when my first child was born that I could or should do it all. I turned down help for making dinners, doing laundry or taking the baby for an hour so I could sleep. If I could go back, I would take up the offers of help.
  • Wasted Money 8 of 10
    Wasted Money
    I had this idea when I was pregnant with my first child that all these things -- I needed to care for my baby. I had a crib, a changing table, fancy clothes and shoes for my babe. I never used any of them and wasted so much money. If I could go back, I would save that money and trust that I could care for my babe without all those commercial products.
  • Doula 9 of 10
    For my first birth, I had my husband and my mom there with me -- who was essentially my doula. I didn't have that for my second or third birth and looking back, I would have liked to have my mom or a hired doula there again.
  • Cloth Diapers 10 of 10
    Cloth Diapers
    I have always used disposable diapers and while I am not really a "green" person, I just think of all the money I could have saved over the many years if I had.

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