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A Word Of Advice: Gifts For The Pregnant Lady

By Monica Bielanko |

A word of advice for anyone trying to shop for a pregnant woman.  But you’ll have to wait for it. I’m not going to tell you until after the jump.  Because I like to string you along.  Like a virtuous young lady at the end of an expensive date.  She ordered the priciest thing on the menu and she may hold your hand in the movie, she may even rub your thigh.  And she just might invite you in to her house when you walk her to the door but if you think you are getting any action you are sadly mistaken.

But listen…me?  I will totally put out.  After the jump.

Do not give the expectant mother gifts for the baby.  I think Danielle sums it up nicely in 5 Gifts NOT To Get A Pregnant Woman:

If you want to buy a gift for the baby, that is one thing, but do not disguise it as a gift for Mom. They are two different people! She doesn’t need anymore reminders that she is being lumped together with the baby constantly.

One of the commenters on Danielle’s article mentions that someone bought her wine when she was pregnant and she wasn’t impressed with that. You can TOTALLY buy me wine. I will be way impressed. First, I still have a glass or two every week (Oh no she didn’t. Yes, yes she did) and wine lasts, so I will eventually drink it if Serge doesn’t get his hands on it first.

My daughter was due in January.  Which meant that many well-meaning friends and family members thought I must absolutely be dying for bottles, onesies and yes, even a binky as a stocking stuffer.  Ironically, this was the one time I could’ve really used a little something for me and only me.   That doesn’t mean a nursing bra or tank either.  That means a gift certificate to a spa, a book, a DVD, a gift certificate to a store that I can shop at after the baby is born… anything that doesn’t remind me of being pregnant.

After nearly nine long months of giving up so many things for the little person inside and with years of sacrificing for children ahead, I just wanted some stuff for me, dammit!    I feel the same way this year.  At eight-ish months along there are many things I still need for KID B but I want stuff for me!

Is that so wrong?  Because if it is, I don’t wanna be right, I wanna be the proud holder of a gift certificate to Old Navy so that I can immediately go downsize my jeggings upon pushing this little guy out.

Listen, maybe the woman you’re shopping for just learned she was pregnant and is still in the glow of first knowing.  Okay, in that case, it could be adorable to buy baby’s first onesie.  But tread lightly, my friends, and follow that onesie up with a special Just For Her item.   I have a hunch a little something for her and only her will go a long way this year.

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Monica Bielanko

Monica Bielanko was raised on the wild frontier of late 1970's Utah. She is a recovering Mormon who married the guitar player of an unknown band. She's been married to her Babble Voices writing partner, Serge Bielanko, for the past nine years. Her personal blog, The Girl Who was in the top ten of last year's Top 50 list. Read bio and latest posts → Read Monica's latest posts →

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5 thoughts on “A Word Of Advice: Gifts For The Pregnant Lady

  1. Dayna says:

    Agreed! On a somewhat related note, I was just thinking today that as I move into my late-ish 30′s, my family’s Christmas presents to me have changed drastically. I used to get pretty scarves, gift sets from Bath and Body Works, earrings… last Christmas I got kitchen towels, a couple different glass platters and a decorative cutting board… blech!

  2. gina says:

    it’s never wrong to want someone to give YOU a gift! I think it’s really healthy and GOOD to be ‘pampered’ after the birth of a child. For all of those, what is it– every 2 hours– you are going to be feeding that little bundle of sunshine, you will be NEEDING a little something special for the old selferooney. BTW, I know one guy who gets his mom flowers on his birthday

    . I appreciate your brutal honesty here. I think a little wine is good for the gut. My friend used beer when she was nursing the twins. Something about it being good for the gas. Whose gas I can’t say.

    Jogging 4 Jolly holiday Jeggings…get yourself sompin nice!

  3. Pebbles says:

    Girl, just take what you can get and set Serge up with a little business of Ebay selling what you don’t want/can’t use.

  4. Lexie says:

    My baby was due three days ago (Is that all?? It feels like a month.), and with her impending birth, family keeps asking me what baby things I still need and would want for Christmas. Uhhh, none?? More than anything, I want an expensive new flat-iron since I can’t imagine I’ll ever be able to spend that much money on my own vanity again.

  5. Mrs.Swe Zin Htun says:

    First experience, so I very worry and very glad.

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