I recently wrote about my – ahem - irritation with strangers commenting that my baby bump is “too small,” as it makes me worry that my baby isn’t growing fast enough or is unhealthy. For what it’s worth, I saw my friend Heather yesterday; she’s only one day behind me. We compared bumps in the mirror, and we look pretty much the same size, although we aren’t the same shape. It made me feel a lot better!
Anyway, apparently I’m not the only one who suffers from bump size paranoia.
So many of you commented on my original post with your own stories – about feeling too small or too big. Being able to commiserate with you made me feel so much better.
- Hollie said, “Since I look so different from [my first pregnancy], I constantly worry about my fetus’s health and size, too, even though I know everything is looking great at doctor’s [appointments].”
- Lola said, “Sometimes I think people don’t think before they say things, but other times I think people are just judgmental and feel like they know everything.”
- Meg said, “Having also had a friend struggle with a really tough pregnancy and her baby not gaining weight past a certain point I know it really can be much more sensitive than just our feelings about our size there really could be a bigger issue and I’d rather not stick my foot in my mouth.”
- A. Catino said, “People told me the same thing when I was pregnant with my daughter. I was convinced I was going to have this petite little baby & she was born almost 9 pounds and 22 inches long!”
- Kortney wrote, “I had one woman tell me how small I was and [she] couldn’t believe I was 38 weeks, and then literally one block later a woman stopped me asked how far along I was and said, ‘You look like you should have already popped that thing out; your huge!'”
- Kyleigh wrote, “How about the ones that tell me I look tiny for carrying two? Do they want me to go into a panic attack. I’d rather them tell me I’m huge. Small belly with twins makes me worry.”
Moral of the story? Like I said the first time again, stick with the generic, “You look happy, beautiful, and healthy!” There’s really nothing a pregnant woman wants to hear more!