I don’t have a lot in common with Victoria Beckham. For instance, if I were going to name a child after a borough of New York City, I might have picked Staten Island instead of Brooklyn, since Brooklyn already gets more than its fair share of attention and Staten Island could use a little love. But that’s just me.
However, Beckham, 37, who is literally due to pop at any moment with her fourth child (if she hasn’t already done so), and I do have one thing in common. We agree that baby bumps feel kind of like they should be private.
“I’m not really one of those people that likes to go out and pose and flaunt being pregnant. Not like there’s anything wrong in that. I’m so proud to be pregnant and I feel so blessed and so happy, I really do,” she said recently.
“I [just] don’t think anyone needs to see that, other than my husband. Absolutely not,” Beckham said, according to People magazine.
Of course there are plenty who take pride in parading around their bump, and women like Demi Moore have famously shown theirs on magazine covers. More recently, Ivanka Trump strutted her baby bump stuff while in a bunny costume for a magazine spread.
And while I think baby bumps are nothing to be ashamed of, I guess I’m just a little more modest in my thinking about when, how and to whom they should be shown in full view or in the flesh.
I often think about what I write, for instance, and the fact that my kids will read it one day. I would never say anything that could hurt their feelings or would cause them embarrassment. Their emotional well-being is way too important, so I toe the line carefully and use my best judgment when deciding what I’m willing to share (or overshare) about them in print.
I think about unborn children in a similar way. If I were to display my pregnant belly in a way that could potentially cause embarrassment to my child somewhere down the road, then I just wouldn’t do it. Of course I wasn’t one to wear a belly shirt before I was pregnant anyway, but nonetheless I think of my belly as sacred particularly during pregnancy and think flashing it for just anyone’s consumption is a kind of intimacy violation. But that’s just me.
I get that some women like to take pictures of their bare bellies for posterity, or decorate them with stuff like henna, and while I understand wanting to document this special time in life, I can’t necessarily wrap my head and heart around sharing those particular photos with the world.
How you feel about public displays of baby bumps?