I have been keeping one such secret.
I haven’t admitted this to many people, but I’m about to come clean.
I truly disliked babywearing.
When we were pregnant with our first child, we read everything about babies that we could get our hands on. We collected information as though there would be some kind of a test before they handed our daughter over to us.
I researched slings and wraps and chose what I felt would work best for us. I practiced putting it on and getting adjusted to it before she was born, as I had read to do. I couldn’t wait to get her into it.
The day that we brought her home from the hospital, I put her in the wrap that I had so carefully chosen.
And she screamed.
And then she screamed some more.
The more she screamed, the hotter she got. The hotter she got, the more she screamed.
The more she screamed, the more I grew to dislike baby wearing.
We tried for days. Every time I tried to put her in it, she completely flipped out.
I tried positioning her differently, certain that there was a way to make her like it.
I asked for advice from friends and was told that it was the sling that I had chosen that was the problem. If I had gotten a wrap, then she would LOVE it.
So, I bought a wrap.
And she complained and squirmed.
The best it ever got was her tolerating it for short periods. She would put up with no more than 20 minutes at a time.
I had planned to wear her everywhere, but she arrived and showed me that she had plans of her own.
When I was pregnant with my son, I did some more research and decided to buy a ring sling and give that a go.
From the very first time that I placed him in it, he hated it.
It was a repeat of all that we went through with our daughter.
It reached a point where I only used it when I absolutely had to and he was miserable the bulk of the time that I wore him.
My kids simply did not like being worn. Held, yes, but worn, absolutely not.
It isn’t that we didn’t give it a chance. They just didn’t like it.
So, if I can share any wisdom with you, it would be to try to find some wraps and slings that you can borrow for a while. Or find a retailer who is generous with their return policy.
Then, go easy on yourself. I was so convinced that my babies should like being worn that I pushed beyond where I should have, all because everything that I had read told me that babies just love to be worn.
My children are proof that some babies feel otherwise.
They were still held and loved and they are well adjusted. I didn’t need to wear them to accomplish that. Once I realized that, we were all happier.
Now, I have a $40 sling, a $50 wrap, and a $60 ring sling.
Who wants to place bets on whether or not they’ll get use with the next baby?
Surely 1 out of the 3 of my children will love being worn?