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17 Bad Habits to Break Before Baby Arrives

By Aela Mass |

“Having a baby changes your life in ways you can’t even imagine.” I think this is the most consistent comment I get from people when I tell them that we’re trying to start a family. That and, “Sleep now.”

Planning a pregnancy lets you consider all sorts of things about what life will be like with a baby. Recently, it led me to think about some of my not-so-great habits — habits that I don’t want around when the baby arrives. As I was writing this post, I started thinking, “Wow, these readers are going to think I’m an awful person.” Highlighting a bunch of bad habits all in one place and recognizing poor characteristics of yourself — and then sharing them with strangers — is no easy task, so I feel as though this post requires a caveat: I really am not so bad. Really.

That being said, check out some bad and embarrassing habits I hope to break before our baby arrives after the jump.

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Bad Habits to Break Before Baby Arrives

Texting in the Car

Before you all scream at me, I didn't say texting while driving -- which I do not do. But I have been known to text at a stoplight or read a text at a stop sign. I know this isn't safe, and I want to break this habit before there's a baby in the car.
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Aela Mass

Aela Mass is a lesbian writer and editor living the dream on Martha's Vineyard with her wife, Sara, and their dog, Darla. She miscarried her twins at 17 weeks and has undergone numerous IVF, FET, and IUI cycles. Her writing has appeared in The Huffington Post among other publications. For more of her work, visit her blog Two Moms Make a Right. Read bio and latest posts → Read Aela's latest posts →

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0 thoughts on “17 Bad Habits to Break Before Baby Arrives

  1. Nikki says:

    You should check out Melaleuca. It’s a green company with all-organic products (ranging from laundry, to dental, to skin care). I am a member and I absolutely LOVE all their products. Check out for videos and info on their products and such. Unfortunately, you can only sign up through someone who is already a member.

  2. heather says:

    Don’t be too freaked out about the sleep stuff. The first weeks are the hardest, but if you have a spouse that is willing to pitch in, the lack of sleep doesn’t have to be a nightly thing. Also, the advice of sleep when you can is great advice. I find a lot of moms won’t do it because they feel like they have to keep a spotless home, get laundry done, do dishes…but if you can let go of those things even just a little bit in favor of getting sleep you might have a messy home, but you will likely be a happier person!
    I am lucky. My husband is a full partner in this and once I was through breastfeeding at night, we traded out who would get up each night (unless it was a very bad night…then we teamed up). I wasn’t getting 8 hours every night, but I was usually getting 8 hours every other night. It kept me sane! You’ll find that breaking some of your other bad habits will actually come easier when there are little eyes and ears in the house. Good luck!

  3. Tierra L. says:

    Great advice Heather!

  4. Lola Vanslette says:

    Don’t sweat it. Lose the texting because your baby needs your undivided attention… especially when driving, for both your sake; but don’t worry about the bad habits, you won’t have time for them once the baby arrives. Get sleep when you can, and just be real. As for cleaner cleaners, check out, they have everything you need to go green. Enjoy the baby.

  5. Joy says:

    I like Nikki use Melaleuca products. Love all their products. My favs are: toothpaste, laundry detergent, dish detergent, gold bar soap, face cleanser, all cleaning products, chap stick, RENEW lotion–best lotion ever!

  6. Anela says:

    You should check out legacy of clean SA8 +bioquest laundry detergent. It’s ultra concentrated and has about 150 loads per box. It’s great and they have one for baby’s laundry.

  7. Virginia says:

    Regarding sleep, your body keeps track and always wants you to catch up. So better to get the sleep now and start off will a full tank so to speak cause it just goes down from there. And the sleeping in thing (I too am a slow waker upper, as in, “Don’t talk to me for at least an hour!” kind of waker upper), somehow your mind and body just take over because ever fiber in your being tells you that baby is way more important that 5 more minutes of sleep so really don’t worry too much about that one. Lastly, on being a know it all, I often feel the same way but have come to realize that is just one of my talents and I should not have to pretend like I don’t know something relating to the conversation at hand just so others don’t think I am a know it all. Seriously what is wrong with knowing lots of stuff? I though KNOWLEDGE=POWER!?!?! I hope my now 16 month old daughter gets my knack for absorbing tid bits at every turn. Those tid bits have saved me and my friends or family time and/or money on many many occasions. Own your know-it-all-ness with pride. Though I will add try to avoid correcting people if you know nothing productive will come of it. For example, I NEVER correct peoples spelling on facebook or txt messages or tell people they are wrong if it isn’t going to help them or change an outcome positively.

  8. Bridget says:

    We use charlie’s liquid soap for laundry detergent. Works on cloth diapers, too. I also use baking powder in the toilet to clean it, and it is INCREDIBLE. You wouldn’t believe the difference, and how easy it is.

  9. Toni says:

    I recommend The Honest Company for cleaning products, chemical free/biodegradable disposable diapers and wipes. You don’t have to be a member but you can bundle your packages to be mailed monthly. It’s great and I love all the products they offer and they are always adding more.

  10. Liann says:

    I think that all of your driving habits will naturally disappear. You just have a different mentaility when your kids are in the car. I used to do all of these things and they’re a total non-issue for me now. On the sleeping, it is definitely good advice to sleep when the baby can, but I also get wanting to prep yourself for less. For me this was a non-issue as well because I was up so many times at night at the end of both pregnancies using the bathroom that even the first few sleepless weeks with the boys were somewhat of an improvement.

    And who could you be talking about that’s just as loud as you? ;)

  11. Briana says:

    This is a great list and made me really feel bad about all those habits that I still have! Haha. Okay – I know every baby is different but the “sleep now” thing always bothered me. It’s true I barely slept more than 2 hours at a stretch for the first 5 months of her life but after she learned to nap, I did too and I’ve never gotten so much sleep in my life! Then again, I’m a stay-at-home with one child. For me, I’ve always felt like it’s after the second child that you’ll never get sleep.

    The other habit that I am still learning to break is to “not sweat the small stuff”. You can get so easily caught up in what you are “supposed to” or “not supposed to” do that it will drive you crazy – like thinking your child is going to suffer in school because they see television every once in a while, or that they are going to be obese because they don’t like green vegetables. It’s so easy to get obsessed with these details. I cried the first night I gave in and gave Mia a pacifier, like I was a failure. But I digress – just remember to take a deep breath and remember that in ten years no one will know or care how much television baby watched or how many vegetables she ate!

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