Before I had children I knew I wanted to have more then one. I knew I wanted to have them close in age like my siblings and I are because I feel that adds to how connected we are. I knew I wanted my kids to have the forever-friend in their brothers and sisters as I have with mine.
When my husband and I were planning our family we kept that in mind. Our older two are only 14 months apart and that seemed to be the perfect age-gap for me. I wasn’t yet into a pattern of sleeping through the night, they were close enough they eventually ended up in the same diaper size, they played together and they were (and still are) best friends.
Then there is my youngest (Babe E) who is 2 years apart from her sister and 3 years apart from her brother. We had hoped to have them closer in age but things just didn’t work out that way. I was worried that she would feel left out, that the older two wouldn’t want to play with her and interact with her too much.
Now that she is near 3 years old I can see that worry was pointless. They play together well – they are close and you can see they will (hopefully) always be that way.
I can’t help but have the same worry if there is a next time…
Is there ever a time where it is ‘too late’ to start over? To go back to the newborn stage once you get used to a life of kids, toddlers and independence? I worry about all that as my husband and I talk about adding to our family. I know that we have to keep in mind how adding another member will affect everyone – it’s not just as simple anymore as it was when it was just Ryan and I.
If we were to add another one I think by the time all is baked and out – our kids will be at least 7, 6 and 4 years old. Is that too big of an age gap?
::How far apart are your kids? Any advice?::